alright, my question to the masses

[jdheinold]

so, last week skiing with friends, i met someone. she suggested at several points that we hang out together with mutual friends, and told our mutual friends that i was cute, fun, etc etc etc.

 

now, i know she is on facebook, but have not had any contact with her since.

 

what do i do? it seems awkward to ask when she may be hanging out with my friend (i mean, asking my friends when they may hang out again) but i do want to get to know this girl better to see if there is anything worth pursuing.

 

what do i do? send a message via facebook? subtly or directly talk to my friend about her? I would think sending a message via an impersonal means such as facebook would seem...desperate...but i do want to get to know her better. i've never been in this situation before.

[ToF]

Hi jd,

 

That's a tough one...But I think direct contact is always the best way to go.

 

I would message her on FB and just say something like, "Hey! I had a great time, blah blah blah, when can we do something fun again?"

 

Okay, that was really cheesy, but you get the point lol. Just talk to her and see what happens

 

-TOF

[Mr. Franklin]

Direct contact is the best. You will get to know all of the information and how she reacts to you.

[jdheinold]

yeah, i'm "trying" for direct contact. its just hard when there is no reliable way to talk to the person. perhaps i should be more proactive with our mutual friend?

[anna0511]

exact same thing happened to me two weeks ago on a ski trip but we had no mutual friends so i went for direct contact via e-mail. didn't work for me as he never responded. oh well... it was good practice in being more proactive. best of luck to you!

[ToF]

I think you should go with both if you really want to. But you don't want to appear A) Over-eager, or B) Immature for going to your friend and not her directly.

 

So just try to be as up-front as possible, and good luck!

[jdheinold]

both as in sent an e-mail and hope for face-to-face contact?

[jdheinold]

just as a follow up, she found me on facebook. i asked for her number after some "hi how are you" messages, and now have a date lined up for a week from today.

 

so far so good i spose

 

oh, i called to ask her to go on a date, not via fb