Singler Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 He never memorized my number from the start it is just how he is, why does he keep it in his cellular phonebook? Link to comment
Theblueman123 Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 Maybe so that if you contact him, he knows who it is, and so he can make the decision to reciprocate the contact or not. Link to comment
Singler Posted September 30, 2009 Author Share Posted September 30, 2009 well.....just delete it then ...i want to tell him but don't want to ruin NC.... Link to comment
Theblueman123 Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 well.....just delete it then ...i want to tell him but don't want to ruin NC.... You have no control over his thoughts and actions. Just leave him be. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 30, 2009 Share Posted September 30, 2009 Maybe so that if you contact him, he knows who it is, and so he can make the decision to reciprocate the contact or not. exactly!!!! also, some people are lazy and don't clean stuff out. or he is keeping your number 'just in case' he might need it someday. for example, he wants to know the name of that really cool hotel you stayed at in miami because he's going there. Link to comment
vertigoxo Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I think what the OP meant was that why would an ex would keep your number if, for example, your ex has been very cruel to you or doesn't even talk to you much anymore. Link to comment
doiiiieeezie Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 No offense, but this is petty. If he decides to keep your number, it's really none of your concern. It's his life, you have yours. Focus on you. Link to comment
mikeca Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 No offense, but this is petty. If he decides to keep your number, it's really none of your concern. It's his life, you have yours. Focus on you. I wouldnt say petty just none of your concern sounds right, and who cares? I have no idea if my ex has my number or not, oh well...still doesnt change anything. Link to comment
waveseer Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 You could fix it if it were important enough, simply change your number. In about 3 months if he ever calls it, he will get someone other than you! Link to comment
Bella20 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 how do you know he has your number ? Link to comment
Singler Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 he called my cell this morning, it just bothers me a tad. I was just wondering its not like I am going to tell him to delete it, i did delete his for the sake of myself. I am not thinking into it. It's over I accept that, He still has my sisters number, so its nothing. Link to comment
Singler Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 OMG, I made a big mistake. After getting a call from my sister telling me our dad is dying, I pulled over to the side of the road, I had to calm down. I did, drove to work and called him. He did not answer sent me a text saying he was in the detists office and he would call in a bit. He did, I told him what is happening to my father,etc. I then made another mistake and asked if we could go for drinks, he said he hasn't been going out lately but saturday seems like an ok night. Why do I keep doing this to myself? Link to comment
annie24 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 i can understand, you just heard some horrible news and you want someone to cry on. however, i'm not sure how supportive your ex will be in that regard, if he will give you what you need. i don't know him. how long did you guys date and who broke up with whom? maybe it would be good to call a female friend to get some moral support. Link to comment
Honey610 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 Firstly, I'm sooo sorry to hear about your father. Secondly, I kinda wondered why an ex of mine would keep my number, but I guess at the end of the day, he doesn't hate you. I don't know if you guys had a bad break up, but if you didn't, why not keep your number? Thirdly, I don't know your whole story with your ex, but maybe hanging out with him and feelings things out is a good thing. Just as long as you don't push anything with him. Link to comment
Singler Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Well we were together for 10 months, he fell in love fast. I was going through some stress and took it out on him without telling him what exactly I was going through. He broke up with me. I did the calling and begging, I stopped doing that. But I ran to him because he was my support, my sis is having a baby, my other friend has one so it is hard to see them. I am not going to lie, I want him back. But I know he is only seeing me because I need him, I will not talk about the relationship but feel as if I am bringing "bad" and "sad" to go out instead of a cherry meeting. SO I am only burying myself further...or not? Link to comment
LillyLooWho Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I think with some of us (most of us) we have to try just about everything before we give up. So you are trying this. It might work, it might not but you have to try. It is just in your nature, so go with it and try to have a good night. I'm sorry about your dad. Link to comment
Singler Posted October 1, 2009 Author Share Posted October 1, 2009 Thanks, its really hard going through this and a break up. I am beginning to wonder when I will have a happy ending. Link to comment
Lavender25 Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 I'm so sorry to hear about your father. Don't feel bad about calling your ex because I know if I was put in your position, my ex would be the first person I would call. I understand your need for him to be there for you. He was the closest person to you for a long time. However, please don't use this situation as a crutch to keep him in your life. I say go out for drinks like you've already planned, and then call a girlfriend and use her as someone to lean on. Hopefully he calls later on to check in and see how you are doing. If he doesn't... then I think that's your answer right there. Link to comment
mikeca Posted October 1, 2009 Share Posted October 1, 2009 It's always darkest just before the dawn When things are extremely bad, it may signal that they are about to get much better While you may have had a lot of negatives in your life lately hang in there, sometimes it feels like it will never end but trust me it well and things will begin to go so well you'll barely remember this downswing. It is times like this that we find out who we are, and how we overcome them shapes who we will be. Link to comment
gary1958 Posted October 2, 2009 Share Posted October 2, 2009 My ex ran out on me in the middle of sex 2 1/2 years ago over some perceived slight and ended the relationship. She had huge emotional/mental issues. In the 2 1/2 years I have received blank emails from her at home and at work. An oooops sorry wrong email address email from her. I think the same thing, if you ended it in such a crazy fashion all of those years ago....why are you still hanging on to my email address. I dumped yours immediately after you ran out that door in that fashion. Some things are better left not thought about! Link to comment
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