New College :(

[Loriana]

So i got my exams results back and i didnt too well cos i had a hard year and skipped class alot due to personal issues. i regret that now but anyway i got an unconditional offer at a college that does a course on Make-Up and i took it so that means i can get in and it doesnt matter about my grades. The thing is my class is an all girl class and i just find it really hard to mix with girls cos in high school most of my friends were guys i didnt have many girls as friends apart from one. The college is an hour away from my house so i have to get 2 buses and it takes really long. I'm always so tired when i come home and i rarely get to talk to my friends cos i just feel like i need to sleep. I feel so out of place in my coyrse everybody is older than me and most of the girls arent the sort of people i would hang around with. I just feel so lonely, i really had high expectations that i would have an awesome time but i think im realising Make-Up may not be the career path i want to go down. Ive always loved writing and everybody who knows me knows im so much better at writing. I found a course that allows you to work online and its helped people get their work published and i just feel right now i want to do writing more. The thing is i would be kind of stupid to walk out of a course that i got for nothing but its making me unhappy at the end of the day and i just want to follow my insticts that are telling me to quit and do that writing course. Make-Up was just my back up as theres no colleges in my area that does a creative writing course. I dont know how to tell my parents i want to quit they're gonna be so dissapointed and all i want to do is make them happy but i just cant be myself at this new college. Please help me.

[odile]

How much longer would it take to complete the make-up course?

Did you have to pay anything (either tuition or supply fees)?

My opinion is that if you have already invested anything in the course (be it money or time), then it's in your best interest to evaluate

your options carefully, and not quit in haste.

 

The social aspects of your course should not be your priority here, and it sounds like you are letting your lack of friends at school determine your feelings about the course.

 

Try not to focus so much on whether or not you are buddies with the people on your course.

There's never any guarantee about who you end up in class with, or who you work with in the real world.

What would you do if you switched courses, and found that you didn't really like that group of people either?

 

This is a good chance for you to learn how to interact with people that you wouldn't otherwise socialise with-- a skill that will serve you well no matter what you do in your life.

If you are lucky, you may find that you actually have more in common with some of the people than you at first imagined.

And if not, well, you won't have to keep in touch with them once you graduate.

 

In the meantime, put your energy on doing as well as you can.

Whether or not you LOVE it, using this opportunity to exercise your self-discipline will really help you in the long-run, even if later on you decide to change career paths.

 

As for writing-- the good thing is that you don't have to pay for an online course to continue doing it.

Keep writing on your own, for pleasure.

 

See if there are any creative writing groups or workshops where you live.

Or, check the closest community college for short-courses, or enroll in a single class that doesn't interfere with your current schedule.

That would be a really good way for you to meet new people, explore and develop your interest in writing AND keep your current commitments.

 

If you eventually decide that you want to apply to another course, then it will be in your best interest to be able to show them proof of your work ethic, and your ability to follow through and complete you goals-- particularly when it sounds like your last year transcripts and exams may not indicate that.

[Loriana]

Thanks for the advice i had a better day today and thought to myself i shouldnt focus on the social side of things so i concerntrated on the work and found that i really liked it and i did get talking to a few new girls today i dont think we'll be best friends but atleast we're nice to eachother.