Huzzah_89 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 I got a fairly good looking girls number on the weekend, should I wait 3 days and call her? Call her tomorrow? Text her? AND.... What should I say to her? Ask her to the movies or something? Im so inexperienced with this stuff. Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 No need to wait for 3days. Call her to see what she's doing this weekend. I avoid the movie myself, you really can't talk much. Coffee or lunch sounds better. Its a first date, should be casual. Link to comment
Jpo Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 Do this. Text her the next day and say, "So am I supposed to wait three days or can I call you tonight?" Link to comment
hockeyplaya44 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 When I get girl's number now I just tell her I'm going to call her the next day. That way it doesn't come off as desparate calling the next day cause I said I would. Some people say that you shouldn't say when you're going to call but it hasn't caused me any trouble so far. In your case I'd call the next day in the afternoon. And guynextdoor is right, no movie for the first date. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 call her up and see what she's up to this weekend. bs with her a bit about some random basic stuff. then see if she wants to go bowling, mini golf, or something. don't go to the movies. ^^^ and yeah what hockey said...i usually tell the girl when i'm going to call her when i get her number. also, i almost always call their phone on the spot with, 'here so you can get my number.' that way she gets your number so there is no, 'i don't know your number' excuse or it being a fake. lol Link to comment
hockeyplaya44 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 Do this. Text her the next day and say, "So am I supposed to wait three days or can I call you tonight?" Haha, I like that. Link to comment
mr.mac Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 What is this Swingers? Just call her when you want you are ready to call her, just don't call her incessantly! Link to comment
shikashika Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 NO NO NO No.. do not wait 3 days. Please, for the love of (inser deity here!)do not do that. I've known guys to do this and I think, "Is he trying to show he is oh-so busy and has important things to do that i'm going to think he must have a lot going in his life and oh how interesting he must be?" any guy who waits 3 days I think is just plain not interested... or is playing games.. and that is so boring! I like Jpo's suggestion! hahaha! Link to comment
shikashika Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 btw, forgot to write what to do. Text her that night or the next day and say something like, "enjoyed meeting you. we should get together for food/drinks/cofeee/ bike ride etc do something where you can talk... movies... no way! Link to comment
Jpo Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 I like Jpo's suggestion! hahaha! Thanks, that is actually what I do. I don't have the best dating track record, but women seem to respond well to it. Link to comment
shikashika Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 Thanks, that is actually what I do. I don't have the best dating track record, but women seem to respond well to it. yes, because it's funny and you're NOT doing the lame 3 day rule thing (pretending to be busy, so busy , you don't have time for a 17 second text message!) and shows you have a good sense of humour!! I would respond well to that! Link to comment
shikashika Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 "fairly good looking" girls should be called right away. "really good looking" girls, you should wait 3 days and "not really good looking" girls, you should wait about a month. HAHA! too funny! Link to comment
Russ Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 Honestly, why would you wait the 3 days? "Hey, it's Sunday night, what're you doing this... Oh wait, we've got a weekdays ahead of us." Crash, burn, simmer. Link to comment
Aueft Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 Advice has been good about contacting her, which was- do it sooner than later, not 3 days later. My two cents comes in on the issue of the date; I suggest coffee and a walk. Don't do a movie. Link to comment
Russ Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 "fairly good looking" girls should be called right away. "really good looking" girls, you should wait 3 days and "not really good looking" girls, you should wait about a month. I'd wait until I was drunk enough, personlly Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 while i think jpo's idea is pretty slick, i think it's a bit weak. it says to me, 'can i call you pretty please cause i'm too weak to just man up and do it.' even though it sounds funny and flirty, i see it as weak. IMO Link to comment
hockeyplaya44 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 What is this Swingers? Just call her when you want you are ready to call her, just don't call her incessantly! One of my favorite movie scenes ever.. Hi, uh, Nikki, this is Mike. I met you at the, um, at the Dresden tonight. I just called to say that I had a great time... and you should call me tomorrow, or in two days, whatever. Anyway, my number is 213-555-4679 Hi, Nikki, this is Mike again. I just called cuz it sounded like your machine might've cut me off when I, before I finished leaving my number. Anyway, uh, and, y'know, and also, sorry to call so late, but you were still at the Dresden when I left so I knew I'd get your machine. Anyhow, uh, my number's 21 - 213-555-4679. That's it. I just wanna leave my number. I didn't want you to think I was weird or desperate, or... we should just hang out and see where it goes cuz it's nice and, y'know, no expectations. Ok? Thanks a lot. Bye bye. Classic. Link to comment
shikashika Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 while i think jpo's idea is pretty slick, i think it's a bit weak. it says to me, 'can i call you pretty please cause i'm too weak to just man up and do it.' even though it sounds funny and flirty, i see it as weak. IMO I agree.. if a guy says, "May I please call you?" same as "May I please kiss you?" Both are lame and a turnoff. but it is kind of funny... and I'm a female..and I would take it as an indication that he knows the 3 day rule is silly and immature... He's not asking, 'So should I call you now or should I call you in 3 days. Please let me know. Regards, Jpo." THAT would be lame! and would know he was kidding..because no one is going to answer, "actually call me in 3 days" Then SHE would be a basketcase. My 2 cents! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 something better would be: ring ring she answers 'hey ____. how are you?' 'reply' 'cool. thought i'd call you today and set something up because i think the 3 day rule is for suckas.' go from there. not my general conversation, just polishing up the idea. Link to comment
happyfrank Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 Don't text. It can be the kiss of death. Call her. Link to comment
Jpo Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 I agree.. if a guy says, "May I please call you?" same as "May I please kiss you?" Both are lame and a turnoff. but it is kind of funny... and I'm a female..and I would take it as an indication that he knows the 3 day rule is silly and immature... He's not asking, 'So should I call you now or should I call you in 3 days. Please let me know. Regards, Jpo." THAT would be lame! and would know he was kidding..because no one is going to answer, "actually call me in 3 days" Then SHE would be a basketcase. My 2 cents! Yeah, I never thought of it as weak. I plan on calling her regardless, it is just sort of as a cute flirty thing to start things off well. The way you described is kind of the way I view it. It seems to me that thinking weak/not weak in this case is just looking to far into the comment. Obviously it is just a flirty joke, and I have never had a girl take it the wrong way, many told me later that they thought it was cute and really liked it. To each his own though, I don't really plan on changing tactics, but I also think it is something that fits my personality well. You should always go with your instincts on this kind of stuff I think. Link to comment
KG Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 Yeah, I never thought of it as weak. I plan on calling her regardless, it is just sort of as a cute flirty thing to start things off well. The way you described is kind of the way I view it. My 2 c's...Jpo is spot on. humorous, a little humble, but straight to the chase. Link to comment
hockeyplaya44 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 Yeah, I never thought of it as weak. I plan on calling her regardless, it is just sort of as a cute flirty thing to start things off well. The way you described is kind of the way I view it. It seems to me that thinking weak/not weak in this case is just looking to far into the comment. Obviously it is just a flirty joke, and I have never had a girl take it the wrong way, many told me later that they thought it was cute and really liked it. To each his own though, I don't really plan on changing tactics, but I also think it is something that fits my personality well. You should always go with your instincts on this kind of stuff I think. I think in most cases if a girl likes you, you have to do something pretty stupid to completely turn her off. So even if it did come off as "weak" it's not going to push her away anyways. Link to comment
Huzzah_89 Posted August 21, 2009 Author Share Posted August 21, 2009 something better would be: ring ring she answers 'hey ____. how are you?' 'reply' 'cool. thought i'd call you today and set something up because i think the 3 day rule is for suckas.' go from there. not my general conversation, just polishing up the idea. Hey, I like that idea. Ill use it thanks. Link to comment
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