a shy guy looking to be more assertive

[angrybeaver]

okay well i have always been pretty shy but i am looking to be more assertive when it comes to dating and life in general. basically i am looking for ideas on how to be more assertive but not to assertive.

[iabu_com]

Try a more aggresive approach on a dating site. You don't have anything to lose there. "Hello girl! Your profile is weird... you are weird.. but interesting. Wanna chat? I'll get you a drink ... " "Do you have a twin sister or you were in New York last night? Probably the first because your hair looks longer..." "Your picture looks blurry.. can I see another? "

[Fisch]

HAHAHAHHA

IABU THAT IS GOLD DUDE!

My deepest apologies for this post.

-Your pal FISCH

[Sn0man]

Women love confidence in a man. Let me repeat that for clarity.....

 

WOMEN LOVE A CONFIDENT MAN.

 

Be confident in yourself, and let the rest go from there!

 

Good luck in future endeavours.

 

Sn0man

[pamelina77]

Sometimes I practice what I am going to say to someone before I say it so I have already figured out "the cool thing to do" - you know, to make sure I won't put my foot in my mouth or something which I usually do if I haven't practiced. OR another idea is if you like someone, just pretend they have known you your whole life, that will calm you down.

 

Another idea is to start being more assertive with your own family - like telling your mom you hate her hairstyle or something really bold that you wouldn't ordinarily say out loud - then you will find it easier to be direct with people you are attracted to, and you will conquer your fears because your family will always be there even if you make a fool of yourself!

[sweetapples]

angrybeaver,

 

I totally understand how you feel, I am also really shy especially around females. I have the biggest crush on this woman that I occasionally walk past some afternoons. I want to say hi to her but I can't build up the courage to do so.