metrogirl Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 I always have a hard time going no contact. Then you really don't want to end it. Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Share Posted August 2, 2009 Look at it this way, why would you want to be IN contact with someone who is so disrespectful to you? That makes no sense. If you want the closure, tell him its over, then take his number off your phone. Put the phone in another room and get on with life. Hes not worth anymore time, trouble, or thought. I have already deleted most of his texts. Gosh, i have to throw away the massage oil because even the scent reminds me of him! Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Share Posted August 2, 2009 Then you really don't want to end it. I do, i know he will ONLY hurt me. I dont know why its so hard to let go. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 I do, i know he will ONLY hurt me. I dont know why its so hard to let go. Well if you stick around, he will only continue to hurt you because he knows that he can. Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Share Posted August 2, 2009 Yeah, i know. Some guy who imed me on meetup a month ago just imed me again. Said he loved my pics and we should meetup-we could have fun. I remember him all too well. I said " I will not have sex with you" he said i ruined it, he is officially uninterested. I assumed he even wanted to have sex with me. Then 5 min later said, and judging from your pictures, i am quite a step up from you-Goodbye. Jerk! Link to comment
metrogirl Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 Yeah, i know. Some guy who imed me on meetup a month ago just imed me again. Said he loved my pics and we should meetup-we could have fun. I remember him all too well. I said " I will not have sex with you" he said i ruined it, he is officially uninterested. I assumed he even wanted to have sex with me. Then 5 min later said, and judging from your pictures, i am quite a step up from you-Goodbye. Jerk! I'm lost.... You were trying to meet up with someone while you were in a relationship? Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Share Posted August 2, 2009 Lol its off topic, but that just happened today. Link to comment
shes2smart Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 Well...at least this likely gives you a more accurate explanation of his dropping out of sight and not bringing you around to meet his family than that lame "work's been busy" excuse he was giving you. Your eyes have been opened....and that which has been seen cannot be un-seen. I had one cheating ex....and, yeah, if you want to retain your dignity and self-esteem, you won't have anything more to do with him at all. BTW, my cheating ex's words and actions didn't match up, either. It's a harsh lesson to learn, but I guarantee you it will serve you well in the future. Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Share Posted August 2, 2009 I only had one cheating bf in my life. We were both 19, and he was in the army. Lol were friends (pen pals) now. I should have known something was up with this guy, but i blindly thought he cared. I had a bf where we would see each other 3-5 days a week, another one had a child and i saw him every other w/e for 2 days, sometimes i would stay a week or more. I met his family on the first date, and spend xmas eve at their house, so yeah this wasnt right. Link to comment
LazyDaisy Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 Unfortunately there are a lot of liars out there. Its good to be a trusting person but always pay attention to actions and when actions and words don't match up that is a huge red flag. I have a really good website for you which talks about these kids of things. Its baggagereclaim.co.uk The girl that runs it is over in the UK but its a very informative forum. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 I first asked him if he was talking to other people, he answered " just wondering where this is coming from" i responded about his profile. He hasnt responded. If it was no, he would have responded fast. So the missed calls, excuses why he cant see me that weekend, travel for work, weekend with the boys was not the truth! hmmm just waiting to see what lie he is gonna feed me now. I thought men liked loyal, honest women. Makes me sick to think i cooked for him. He makes me sick, liars are the worst! i chuckled at this.... Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 Gosh, i have to throw away the massage oil because even the scent reminds me of him! the greatest tragedy of all Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Share Posted August 2, 2009 i chuckled at this.... Hey, i spent a long time preparing that! Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Share Posted August 2, 2009 ](*,)the greatest tragedy of all It wasnt cheap lol Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 i retract my statement then Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 ](*,) It wasnt cheap lol sounds like his loss...the fool!! Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted August 2, 2009 Author Share Posted August 2, 2009 Thats right buddy! lol Link to comment
Portage Posted August 2, 2009 Share Posted August 2, 2009 i'm seeinggggggggggg a weee love connection above. *twiddles thumbs* Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted August 3, 2009 Author Share Posted August 3, 2009 i'm seeinggggggggggg a weee love connection above. *twiddles thumbs* your being a s**t stirrer lol Link to comment
Portage Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 your being a s**t stirrer lol YYUPPP - LOL Link to comment
thejigsup Posted August 3, 2009 Share Posted August 3, 2009 This just proves my contention that most men cheat. I have met damn few who haven't. I gave up years ago worrying about it. As me and my friends say, "Keep the one you've got because the next one will probably cheat too!" I know that sounds harsh, but it's been my experience in life. I've had maybe two bfs not cheat, in over 35 years of dating! I just think it's something we either put up with, or we stay single. Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted August 6, 2009 Author Share Posted August 6, 2009 Yeah, can you believe that he tried to BS me and say that he gets mail from time to time from POF but has never met anyone else on there or ever written to anyone. Low and behold, he has a new pic up today! freaking liar! Link to comment
metrogirl Posted August 6, 2009 Share Posted August 6, 2009 Yeah, can you believe that he tried to BS me and say that he gets mail from time to time from POF but has never met anyone else on there or ever written to anyone. Low and behold, he has a new pic up today! freaking liar! Are you scoping out his profile? Link to comment
enchanted771 Posted August 6, 2009 Author Share Posted August 6, 2009 Yes, of course i was. And the SOB was texting me last night! Link to comment
shes2smart Posted August 6, 2009 Share Posted August 6, 2009 Are you scoping out his profile? Yeah, that was going to be my question, too. I don't text...heck, I barely know how to use my phone...but isn't there some way you can block him so he's not bothering you? Also, I don't know that looking at his online profile(s) is really helping you. I always found that post-break-up, it was to my benefit to pretend that "he" simply didn't exist....Because the bottom line was that he didn't exist in my world anymore. I think if you don't set a boundary here, you're setting yourself up to be sucked back in. Link to comment
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