ajaxajax Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 Hey ladies and gentlemen... I know that guys are "naturally" required to ask girls out...very rarely it's the other way round. I've started to change how I communicate - particularly with women...and it's been rather positive so far But, I know that some guys ask women out within literally minutes of first knowing them. So... if I ask a lady out within minutes of first meeting her, how successful might that be in making a good response? Also, should I just really ask out naturally even if I do it that quick? Any ideas are welcome... Thank you Link to comment
rusty_boi Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 Best bet would be to suss her out for a bit longer than a few minutes, i normally do about 10 min of sussing out/courting her. and ask for her number, and go from there Link to comment
Diggidyd Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 depends.. if you know you're going to see this woman again on a non-spontaneous note, then yea, you can drop the casual "hey i'd like to take you " or coffee or whatever ur thang is line before u guys separate if u know ur going to see her again.. u don't have to do it right away if u dont feel comfortable.. usually i jus gauge the situation... if i can tell that the woman and i are clicking really well at that particular moment usually i'll bring it up right there and then if she'd like to go with me to Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 depends.. if you know you're going to see this woman again on a non-spontaneous note, then yea, you can drop the casual "hey i'd like to take you " or coffee or whatever ur thang is line before u guys separate if u know ur going to see her again.. u don't have to do it right away if u dont feel comfortable.. usually i jus gauge the situation... if i can tell that the woman and i are clicking really well at that particular moment usually i'll bring it up right there and then if she'd like to go with me to Exactly. If you see her on a regular basis, might want to spend some time working up to it and getting to know her. But if it's someone you happened to meet standing in line at the grocery store or something and you don't know when you'll see her again, you probably need to just go for it while you're both standing there talking. Link to comment
ajaxajax Posted May 27, 2009 Author Share Posted May 27, 2009 So not being exactly sure if you'll see one girl again is a very natural reason to just ask out, huh? Since you'd obviously ask to keep in touch at least... But, asking a girl out just before you go in an encounter lasting less than a few minutes is a big ask... Btw...how would women come accross such quick requests? Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 So not being exactly sure if you'll see one girl again is a very natural reason to just ask out, huh? Since you'd obviously ask to keep in touch at least... But, asking a girl out just before you go in an encounter lasting less than a few minutes is a big ask... Btw...how would women come accross such quick requests? It's happened. If I'm interested, i say yes. If I'm not, I decline. Just like I would after any amount of time. After you've been talking for a couple minutes and you're about to part ways, just say something like, "Well, it's been nice talking to you. Would you like to grab coffee sometime?" and go for the number Link to comment
ajaxajax Posted May 28, 2009 Author Share Posted May 28, 2009 Interesting...and that is what can be called "asking out"? It's not necessarily about "forcing" a lady out on a date, if you know what I mean? Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 Interesting...and that is what can be called "asking out"? It's not necessarily about "forcing" a lady out on a date, if you know what I mean? Um, it's never about forcing a lady on a date. How do you normally ask people out? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 Um, it's never about forcing a lady on a date. How do you normally ask people out? 'you're coming with me.' Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 'you're coming with me.' lol. "get your ass in the car!" Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 IMO, the faster a guy asks a girl out of bat and she agrees, its more lust and slam bam thank you mam. If a guy talks and gets to know the girl for a while before asking her out, it shows that he and her are open to the possibility of actually taking the time to get to know each other beyond the first meeting. If im interested in someone i will chat with them getting to know what they like to do. i have a seasonal method. if its winter, almost all fun sporty in shape women love to snowboard so i bring that up. when it seems that we have a mutual attraction i say, "ill tell you what, im going snowboarding this weekend and im taking you with me". works everytime or ill atleast score a hook up and number. Summer time you can do the same thing but use water sports. Link to comment
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