Am I confused or just addicted

[bigcat22]

I have been married 25 years. I have been in an affair off an on with the same married woman for 15 of those 25. At all times I have used escorts even when the affair was hot and heavy. I am now getting ready to file for divorce. So is the partner in the affair. The plan is to be together when we can be open and honest. I can't help but think that even after the divorce and eventual honest relationship I would go back to some of the escorts. Do I love her or is it just sex.

[RosiePosie]

Does the person you are having an affair with know that you are "seeing" hookers on the side? If not, you have a duty to tell her. Course, you had a duty to tell your present wife about the other woman too and it doesn't sound like you have done that either.

 

Just to let you know - only a very small number of marriages last that are products of an affair, so don't hold your breath about this second marriage lasting either.

 

In fact, why do you think you should get married at all? You don't seem like marriage material anyway?

[doyathink]

ummm. this dude hasn't checked back on ENA since 2004!