obsession1607307934 Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 Firstly thanks to all for your stories, thoughts and comments. Can honestly say I have drawn on it all to help me. Been NC, as my ex requested, for 10 days. It does get easier with time, have noticed a change in my attitude already. I know christmas and new years eve will be tough - and know I will get the temptation to send a christmas/new years text to my ex. Any ideas on how to combat this? Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 just delight in your discipline....put your game face on.....be strong Link to comment
HereIGoAgain Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 I know it's difficult not to as one wonders what signals it sends out such as do they think you are being hostile. After all, it is Christmas and peace and good will to everyone, including ex's (unless there are bad reasons for the breakup). As NC has been requested by your ex you should respect their wishes and not send a text. You probably will do more harm than good. Link to comment
Robert013 Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 Send a text out to everyone in your contacts except your ex. Link to comment
jennamajig Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 Send a text out to everyone in your contacts except your ex. Ooo, I like this! But seriously, don't call or text. I'm not. Your ex isn't part of your life and this includes on Christmas. Sad, yes. But true. Link to comment
LE DHUY NHUT Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 No text shows that you respect her wishes and that you're starting to move on.You are starting to move on,right? Link to comment
franfran Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 I was going to email my ex a merry xmas/happy new year message. Planned out what I was going to say for a week. Picked a date I was going to send it, the works. Then I woke up and realized that his day isn't going to be any different, his christmas won't be any merrier, his new year won't be any more of a celebration if I hurt myself and send it to him expecting a reply that I won't get. I say don't do it because they don't deserve it. And in some cases, they might even expect us to cave and send them something... so don't give them the satisfaction. Link to comment
JMichelle124 Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 Firstly thanks to all for your stories, thoughts and comments. Can honestly say I have drawn on it all to help me. Been NC, as my ex requested, for 10 days. It does get easier with time, have noticed a change in my attitude already. I know christmas and new years eve will be tough - and know I will get the temptation to send a christmas/new years text to my ex. Any ideas on how to combat this? I think start by asking yourself why you want to wish him a Merry Christmas? Whatever the answer is the response you receive will not be satisfying, not even if he does return it! Think they don't want to hear from us or they would be with us and it just looks pathetic. And I hate looking pathetic, I want him to think my life is FULL without him! Link to comment
25thfloor Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 #1. don't drink, we get more sentimental when we are having Holiday Cheer and it feels like it's ok to get in touch. #2. change your phone display to show a message or prompt for you not to call. he asked your for NC? i would just keep thinking about that! Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 I know christmas and new years eve will be tough - and know I will get the temptation to send a christmas/new years text to my ex. Any ideas on how to combat this? Have someone hide your phone and give it back to you after both days. Link to comment
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