NOT THE SAME GUY

[LorenaLee]

Well I have been dating a guy for about 5 years and we have been pretty serious and have had many ups and downs. We seemed to have made it through some rough break ups and very hurtful actions that we have both made. Things have been alright for a while now until comments started popping up with him towards the other sex. Things that I have never heard. Well what topped it off was the other day my best-friend was over and when she walked in she had a Hooters shirt on and he made a remark to her saying "Sweet you work for Hooters now!"

 

I was shocked and I ran downstairs and went ot my room to cry. On the way down I hear him say while him and my best friend are upstairs "don't go cry now baby."

So than I started thinking about how over the past few months I have noticed a dramatic change in his personality he has started to be that type of guy that looks at girls as an object and starts looking at me like a different person. So I try to confront him on why I believe he is doing this. So I asked him first- "Is this the way you have always been and are now just coming out with it?" He said no. Then I asked about his work. I said, "Does it have something to do with you working with all guys and it is rubbing off on you?" The answer was yes that is prob most of it. So what should I do.

I am not attracted to that pig type of guy. He never used to be like that, but I know he is now. I would much rather be with someone that loves me as much as I do them. It has even affected our sex life. I don't feel like his "only girl" anymore. I am just a piece of meat. He always wants to do me in the butt too and I sure as hell don't think that is love. As hard as it may be I have seen him change and I don't think it will go back to the way it used to. SO what advice is out there. I am willing to open my mind up but at this point I am leaning towards finding someone new.

 

He has also kidded around with me about liking lesbians and stuff I just don't like those things and I am a very discreet girl so that stuff doesn't cross my mind. Then to top it all off when I try to talk to him about it he says shut up and "I'm gonna flip out if you keep trying to talk." He hasn't even apologized about what he said to my friend. She even told me it made her feel very awkward.

 

So the bottom line is that he isn't the guy I fell in love with. What is going on here!

[raggamuffin]

Ok there are many reasons why people change. I dont know why your boyfriend has but according to you he has and I would say after 5 years you would have a pretty good idea. If you dont like the person he has become and he isnt willing to change (Im not saying that he should, but some extreame cases its required). I think that this is obviously not going to work out for either of you especially if you think that it cant go back to the way it was. The fact that you feel like a piece of meat is worrying you should never ever feel like this in a loving relationship so maybe it is time to move on.