metallicaman82 Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 i am a male & i cannot give my girlfriend an orgasm.i really want to give her one but i'm not sure exactly how.i know where the g-spot is & i've played with that for 30 minutes at a time......but still nothing... so if anyone has some tips i would appreciate the feedback Link to comment
metallicaman82 Posted January 9, 2004 Author Share Posted January 9, 2004 thanx for your reply but do you have any tips for me to help her reach orgasm? if i play with her g-spot for a longer amount of time..would that do it? any feed back is appreciated Link to comment
The Morrigan Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 All women are different. SHE is your best guide. Ask her if she's able to bring herself to orgasm when she masturbates. Have her show you what she does, either show you, or guide your hands in the motions that feel "right" to her. If she uses a toy, or lube, ask her if she'd let you use the same on her. Nobody can give you "certain" advice, like a guide, just because what works for one woman may do nothing for another. Some things are mentally arousing as well - the more she's anticipating it, the more her body is going to be ready to be aroused. Talk to her, ask her what kind of things make her look forward to the time you spend - is she the type that likes you to tell her what you'd like to do when you get home - and she has to wait til dinner's over, or does she like the romance more? Link to comment
Derek Posted January 9, 2004 Share Posted January 9, 2004 guy, Don't bother trying for g-spot anything when she hasn't had an orgasm yet, start with the basics of a clitoral orgasm. (fingers) Also, 30 minutes is not unusual. Work on arousing her mind, not just the mechanics of her body. The brain is the most important sexual organ, for women and men. (atmosphere, anticipation, intimacy, assurance, safety, privacy) If the subtleties above seem to take too long to bother with, Powertools are a man's best friend... get a Jack Rabbit or small pocket rocket vibrator + lube as a gift for you to try on her. Link to comment
sweetbutjealous Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 use your tongue on her and be sure to give her plenty of time... don't rush her. don't give up Link to comment
Mermaid_gurl Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 the clitoris is definitely most important and a lot more women get orgasms from this. also dont just concentrate on her sex organs. treat her, and ive heard this expression several times, like a temple. good luck. Link to comment
Tantro Posted January 26, 2010 Share Posted January 26, 2010 Take your time with her, you have to discover what turns her on and how best to do it. Play with her, discover her sexuality. Explore her entire body very slowly, inside out, gently, perceiving what she feels. Use the tip of your fingers very lightly, blow on her, kiss softly, use your hair, your penis, and specially your tongue; use your arms, legs, bum and feet. Every part of your body against every part of her body and feel what her breath is doing, notice the expressions in her mouth, in her eyes. Start with a small flame, add a stick at a time, keep pace, get a fire going, give her more gas, don't stop until she burns away. Don't jump into penetrating her vagina even with your fingers, that usually spoils everything. If you get her steaming before, then she will beg you to get in her. You have to keep her wanting for more all the time; hinting at what you may do next, then doing it just a little, leaving her uncertain-wanting. Go back to her clit with your tongue, for example, keep enticing it, teasing it, until it's unbearable and then focus your whole being on that pearl, play with it in your mouth, with your lips and tongue; don't let go of it till she comes. Only after that first orgasm can you ask for your own gratification by penetrating her. Link to comment
KG Posted January 26, 2010 Share Posted January 26, 2010 Couldn't have said it better. >>>>Cold shower time, lol! Link to comment
TooLost Posted January 26, 2010 Share Posted January 26, 2010 I just wanted to add(because of personnal experience), whatever you do, do NOT make negative comments about her trouble orgasming. This will only make her more self conscious, which in turn will make her even less likely to orgasm!! Best of luck!! Link to comment
corrin Posted January 27, 2010 Share Posted January 27, 2010 I just wanted to add(because of personnal experience), whatever you do, do NOT make negative comments about her trouble orgasming. This will only make her more self conscious, which in turn will make her even less likely to orgasm!! Best of luck!! This is very important. Sometimes women put too much pressure on themselves and suffer their own version of performance anxiety. If they don't orgasm after 5 or 10 minutes, they become preoccupied with thoughts of whether they have a problem, or whether you perceive them as having a problem, etc.). If they are thinking about other things, orgasm is going to be difficult to achieve. Start off by telling her how much you love touching her (message - I get pleasure out of this too). Then tell her you'd like to spend a little more on this kind of foreplay (message - I'm going to be there a while). Then ask her if this is ok, even though she may not finish, because you like it (message - this isn't about whether you finish or not). This may take the pressure off. Link to comment
MandyJade Posted February 8, 2010 Share Posted February 8, 2010 Hey there. Just so you know every woman's body is different. Also many women do not reach there sexual peak until they are older and know thier bodies better. Take your time, make her feel sexy and relaxed, and make it fun, not a chore. Good luck! Link to comment
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