Confused about where I stand

[Darryl2312]

Hi Folks,

 

Ive been seeing this girl for 2 months.

 

Firstly shes not ready for a relationship boyfriend she says.

 

We do everything a normal couple does, holds hands, have fun, kiss, are intimate etc.

 

I just dunno where it is going, shes said that she understands if I wanted to find a real long term girlfriend.

 

But at the same time we got concert tickets for October, to me thats a little too forward planning !

 

She has been bably hurt in the pas, me too maybe this is a factor ?

 

Help !

[tulip rose]

She has already told you where she stands.

 

If you can't accept that then leave. You will only hurt yourself by hoping that things will change if they don't.

[Tethys]

Agree with Tulip. This girl is telling you she doesn't want a relationship with you. She likes your company, but that's about it. If you are wanting more, it probably won't happen... sorry.

[lady00]

Do you want a relationship? If yes, bail out now before you get more attached and set yourself up to get hurt. When someone says "I don't want a relationship" and the other person does, it's going to lead to huge problems. Better to get out early before you fall in love and it gets harder to leave.

[ghost69]

Hi Folks,

 

Ive been seeing this girl for 2 months.

 

Firstly shes not ready for a relationship boyfriend she says.

 

We do everything a normal couple does, holds hands, have fun, kiss, are intimate etc.

 

I just dunno where it is going, shes said that she understands if I wanted to find a real long term girlfriend.

 

But at the same time we got concert tickets for October, to me thats a little too forward planning !

 

She has been bably hurt in the pas, me too maybe this is a factor ?

 

Help !

 

you already know.

[Zeitgeist]

Mmm...I disagreee with the majority opinion here. I think it's possible that she's just being cautious. I think you can proceed, but I would also try and keep your feelings in check. Don't fall for her - she'll see it and she'll feel pressure. In her state, that's a bad thing. Give her plenty of room, and ZERO pressure. Play it by ear and see where it goes. It's a risk, but great love never comes without it.