Been snooping around, don't know what to do

[Dexter]

I am in a situation where I have a very strong feeling that my ex g/f would get back together with me if I asked her. We have had the most complicated and messed up past 6 months since we broke up I don't even want to explain.

 

Anyways, my current dilema... I have always wanted to get back together with my ex for the longest time until I have found some things that I probably shouldn't have found. Basically, she has told me that she hasnt' been having sex w/anyone else and she had only slept with this one guy since her and I broke up. Well, one time I had found a box of condoms in her dresser drawer and noticed that some were used up, this was a few months ago. That makes sense if she had only slept w/that one guy.

Well, just the other day, I looked in the box again, and I saw that there are now 7 condoms used up, so obviously someone has to be using them.

I don't know if I can confront her about this or not because 1) I shouldn't have been going through her stuff w/out her permission 2) Maybe someone else other than her has been using them.. she does share a room with someone and also has 2 other roommates. I don't have any "proof" that it was actually her that used them so I can't really confront her about lying to me if I don't know for sure, but I would still like to ask her about it.

 

Another thing, is that she told me that she would never take any "nude" Pictures of herself. Well, I happened to find a picture which looks like it was a half naked picture of her on her camera phone. I don't know for 100% that that's what it was due to the lack of quality, but I am almost sure that it was a half naked picture of her.

 

I would like to ask her about these things because I don't think I would feel comfortable getting back together with her if I don't trust her. But yet again, if I ask her about these things, then she is just going to probably get pi$$ed at me and probably not trust me then either, so it just feels like I'm in a lose lose situation. Any ideas???

[LakerFan]

I think you're post pretty much sums up why people should _NEVER_ get back with an ex. The trust between the two of you is completely gone... and you're starting to get paranoid. My advice is just to move on with your life and leave this in the past.

[MichelleLynn]

I know how you feel. I went snooping around on my ex, and I found things I thought were incriminating, but it turns out, I blew everthing out of porportion, snooping is really evil, because you make up your own scenarios before you know the facts.