taria Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 ok im a 16 year old girl my guy is the sweetest guy in the world he treets me like a princess but wen ever we have sex i cant climax its really embarrassing i even fake it i dunno what to do cuz he wants it a lot and i feel awfull cuz he wants me to be satisfied but i never am i dunno what to do i know this is an odd topic any ideas on help plz Link to comment
Vash Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 must suck. has he ever fingered you to your climax? and is he a big guy if he is you just might not be the type that enjoys intercourse like it was ment to be enjoyed Link to comment
taria Posted December 9, 2003 Author Share Posted December 9, 2003 hes fingered me loads but he never catches me and he allways comes really quick so i feel bad cuz im just starting to get into it and he comes hes fingered me but he has rugh hands so it hurts more than feels good Link to comment
The Morrigan Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 A lot of women can't climax during intercourse per se, there's just not enough direct stimulation for more than a basic "feels good" feeling. Either before or after he can try oral or fingering, or even fingering you while you're having intercourse in some positions, there's also a variety of "toys" out there a lot of couples use to make sure both partners walk away satisfied. There's nothing wrong with you (and no lack in him), and no shame in it, the female anatomy just wasn't designed very well for female orgasms during sex! Link to comment
akatoro Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 Hey, perhaps you could tell him to take it slow? Or just take his hand and show him what to do without saying anything - talking isn't really necessary =). Or perhaps he could give you an "oral exam" before you start to give you a head start? Good luck Link to comment
Vash Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 morrigan is right lol. try her ideas and have him get those hands sanded down or something lol im only 15 and i have made my current girlfriend climax about 36 times in 3 months Link to comment
akatoro Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 Vash: Or so you like to think Link to comment
taria Posted December 9, 2003 Author Share Posted December 9, 2003 thanks for advise i cant get tows im not old enuff im only 16 and its just odd cuz i can hardly feel him at all only wen im on top but wen im on top he cant stay hard any advise on that Link to comment
The Morrigan Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 LOL - if his hands are rough, have him start using hand lotion, and get a lubricant - dry friction NEVER feels good, and if it doesn't feel good you won't add much of your own lubricant to the mix, that's just nature. Maybe get one of those little hand held massage thingies - most guys like watching their girls climax - by whatever means, as long as they're the ones doing it! (Plus it'll leave you a LOT more sensitive and sex will feel better, specially if you wait about 5 mins Link to comment
taria Posted December 9, 2003 Author Share Posted December 9, 2003 thats a good idea i think i may get him to try that not only that i myself am very sensitive down there hes not over large or anything but he sumtimes hurts me even when hes bin rel gentle and its not nice i have to get him to stop and it upsetts me cuz hes dissopointed thats what hurts me the most cuz its not his fault and theres not a lot i can do about it Link to comment
in_the_mirror Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 i must say that i can't climax either during and i can't when my bf fingers me but when he gives oral it is the only time i can and it is great maybe you should also try that. if not the lube and stuff sounds like a good idea Link to comment
Derek Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 Hmm, is it really about technique? The guy is being (unconsciously?) selfish and the relationship needs enough trust for them to communicate, so she doesn't have to fake anything. Basically, guys can get off in 3 minutes with or without a woman. So guys need to be more self disciplined and in control of themselves. He needs to get it in his head that you need to be revved up for a lot longer than that and that can be done without any intercourse at all. (and quite fun for everyone too, like exploring, kissing/hands/oral/ lubricants etc.) And even if he goes off early, he has GOT to satisfy his lady or he is not a gentleman. A mistake guys often make is making love like they do in porn. Very wrong. What "looks" good is often not what feels good for the woman. Jackhammering from 8 inches out is not always the best course. Different positions may change things like perhaps Spoon. Suggest to him to try figure 8 patterns with his hips like latin dancing and reduce the jackhammering even though everything in his animal body is telling him to do that. (He won't be able to stop that at some point) P.S. I always wonder if people don't have enough trust to communicate intimate things, why they are having sex in the first place? Link to comment
Mar Posted December 9, 2003 Share Posted December 9, 2003 It also could just be due to simple age, or lack thereof. Many women don't get aroused and haven't NEARLY reached their sexual peak at 16. I've known several women who didn't experience their first orgasm until they were in their late teens/early 20's. But as everyone else suggested, if you know what feels good, then tell him/show him. And tell him to be gentle. A rough tough isn't stimulating most of the time, whereas a gentler, more "teasing" touch can do wonders! Mar Link to comment
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