foolish Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 Ok, so here is my story. I was in a relationship for 3 years and we broke up over 1.5 years ago. I was heartbroken, he broke up with me. He had intimacy issues and he gambled all the time, it wasn't right from the start. Deep down he was a good person and very smart. After he broke it off I fell into a deep depression blaming myself for his intimacy issues with me (he was on paxil, need I say more). I tried to get over it all and date again but I just kept comparing every guy I dated to him. It took me until a month ago to realize what I was doing and finally met someone nice and gave him a chance. He works 3 jobs and has a daughter (I have no kids and I don't plan on having kids anytime soon) and we have only hung out like 4 times in the past month. All the times we were together I had to have my family around to feel comfortable, its been a while since I've been alone with someone. Well it finally occurred to me that I have a problem, we were alone for the first time last night at his house and we were kissing and I freaked out. Its not that I don't like him, its just that I was totally turned off cuz he is not a very good kisser. I tried to come up with a lame excuse on why I had to leave, but he could see right through me. ahhh. I don't want to break it off with this guy over something silly like this. help! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 why not find a different guy? you don't have to be intimate with the first guy that comes along. if someone can't kiss i'd be turned off too. Link to comment
foolish Posted April 24, 2008 Author Share Posted April 24, 2008 I know, but my family hates me right now cuz I want to quit dating him cuz of something that silly. Im not gonna teach someone to do what he is supposed know how to do. oh boy... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 i think it's almost impossible to teach someone how to kiss. it loses luster too if you taught them. the excitement is gone. do what's right for you not your family. your happiness is #1 priority and always should be. Link to comment
LanceVanceDance Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 I personally wouldn't break up with someone just because she isn't a good kisser, if I like everything else about her. But perhaps there are other things about him that you aren't able to pinpoint but which make the whole relationship feel not right. I'd suggest you keep trying for a bit and see if things improve. If it still doesn't feel right, then move on. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 bad kisser = instant turn off. dealbreaker? probably. Link to comment
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