need some un-bias advice

[ButterflyWrists]

Hey, just updating. i AM going back to college. =). will mean i wont be on so much. but i will be at college.

[EQD]

finish college at any and all costs.

[ButterflyWrists]

I really wantt o, i just dont know whats best.

[EQD]

its only 2 months. finish college, get it out of the way, and go back to your family.

[ButterflyWrists]

i cannot go back to my family.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

Finish school. With a degree you have more long term alternatives. You also need to learn how to solve problems rather than run away from them. it is good to recharge your batteries away from conflict sometimes, but as they say, don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

 

Go back and finish your two months course, and if you still want to return to Scotland then, go back again. It isn't set in stone, and you can always change your course.

 

But some opportunities (such as free college and only 2 months left to finish) will be hard to recapture, so don't miss out on that.

[ButterflyWrists]

this isnt a degree, its a hairdressing course, which albit i can complete up here, but i would have to at least finished the first year, and i have no way of being able to move to scotland after i finish college.

[EQD]

Pro's of going back: will be able to finish my course; will see my friends, solstice and be able to re-build a form of relationship with my mum

 

 

^then what does that mean?

[ButterflyWrists]

doesnt mean about going back and living with my family

[ryan123]

Go back and live with a friend for the 2-months?

 

People in the states are so envious(I am atleast) of the free schooling yall foreigners have in other countries. All these college payments being diverted until you graduate and get a job or in your case being exempt completely from payment. Take advantage of that.

 

You dont neccasarily have to go home to go back home, ya know?

[BeStrongBeHappy]

Why would you have no way of moving to Scotland if you go back and finish? You work a while and get money then move again....

[ButterflyWrists]

yeah.. but i have no friends i can stay with.

 

and, i guess i could move back, but its affording it.

[EQD]

if there is a will there is a way. finish college at all costs. the details will follow.

[ButterflyWrists]

i want to. but i cannot get the mental health help i need.

[schueysgirl]

Well how are you affording to move away from home now and live in Scotland? I dont really fully understand how you have got so far into your college course, which apparently you enjoy, and are good at and now dont want to finish it?!

 

2 months is nothing in the scheme of things, its 8 weeks. If you dont finish it you will of wasted the entire year just to begin again?! Pointless. Take it from me someone whose been there and dropped out of something a good few years ago and now wonders what would of happened if I had finished it... get yourself back down to your college and get your course finished.

 

You can then get a hairdressing job pretty much straight away, and then you can get your own place wherever you want. Did you know that hairdressers nearly always land a job straight away after qualifying? And that among the jobs in the UK they have one of the highest happiness ratings?

 

Your on a good path here...dont ruin it by running away and abandoning it. Everyone has problems in life, and they sometimes want to drop things and run and get away from things and people. But they cant. You have to grit your teeth and get on with things, deal with them without running away becasuse things always come back and haunt you anyway.

 

You sound like a very intelligent, mature girl, i think you know what the right thing to do is.

 

Good luck -x-

[schueysgirl]

Pretty much everyone needs mental counselling and help these days if you believe what you read in the papers and magazines. Most people cant afford it or get access to it and have to deal with things their own way, leaning on friends or family to be their counsellors etc. 2 months more hanging on to finish your college course will give you financial, and to some degree mental stability.

[ButterflyWrists]

 

You can then get a hairdressing job pretty much straight away,

 

that is a lie. or it is over here. its next to impossible here.

[ButterflyWrists]

the past there is bad, and it makes me depressed and suicidal.

 

i ran away from my past the situation my mother and my brother. for reasons i dont want to go into, i am sure someone else will fill you in. but right now i just dont want to remember

[EQD]

the only thing stopping you is you.

If you were so deadset against finishing college then i doubt you would have wrote this blog asking what you should do and listing your options.

at some point you have to face up and see that you are limiting yourself with the 'i can'ts'

i have seen it enough in me to know how you feel, but in order to get anywhere you want to be in life you will need to break all this doubt down eventually.

[ButterflyWrists]

i WANT to go back to college. but i dont know whats right for me.

[EQD]

well only you can answer that unfortunately. But i would take what Schueysgirl wrote very seriously.

[schueysgirl]

Whats right for you?

Which one - getting a qualification or not?

Getting a job or not and living on benefits? Like the majority of people in the UK now (its a bloody joke)

Living through hell for 2 more months or running away and staying away your whole life having regrets?

 

You sound like a strong girl. You can do the 2 months. Then you can get a job. And trust me its much easier to get a job as a hairdresser than other jobs...and also once your done in ur training thats pretty much it ... your good to go... unlike some jobs that then require degrees, more training, masters, more training and then experience.

 

Some people have to learn learn learn for years and years and cant move anywhere or leave home or do anything until they have a job at around 26 years old! And some of these people have problems just like you.

[ButterflyWrists]

where u get ur stats from? its near impossible to get a job as a hairdresser unless you open your own salon or know someone who owns a salon.

 

i know this because i have worked in a salon, and i go to college, with its own comercial salon.

[schueysgirl]

Well like any job now-a-days, its not what you know, but who you know. If you were doing experience in a salon, and worked in one, then you were nearly there, and you knew people in the business. Some people when they are doing qualifications do that for years and get no experience until it comes to getting a job, and then are told "come back when you have experience".

 

So in a way in your situation you had your foot on the ladder so to speak. But you may of burned your bridges somewhat when you just upped and left...

 

Not stats specifically...just common sense...

[ButterflyWrists]

yeah well, the hairdressing industry is near impossible to break into.

 

why am i seemingly making this hard. and sorry if im being b---chy