So we are dating! :)

[Boughs]

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Well, basically I've found out she is in it, more than I am! Which is great I accidentally let a I think i love you slip... and she said it back. Now that got me worried, like she is just trying to find comfort and commonality in it with me.

 

Well that was about 3 days after my original post. Do I mean "i love you" yet? perhaps, I think I separate myself from the situation pretty well... taking a step back and analyze. The person she is showing me, is better than I already thought of her.

 

So this is a month and a half into a relationship and we've started saying love. Yes yes, honeymoon stage I'm aware, but we've known each other (talking a lot) for 6 months... anyone out there seem to have done that and felt it for sure? Anyone think its not good?

 

So she has a similar view as me on relationships... and she is moving emotionally the same so far... from what people posted before, thats ok... anyone else see it differently?

[ghost69]

love can hit whenever i think. saying it is scary though. especially when the other person doesn't say it back. but you got lucky and she said it. congrats. just hope it works out and you both actually mean it. whenever a feeling like that overwhelms you, get it out. love has never hit me that fast though.

[Boughs]

Interesting. Most girls I've dated tend to fall emotionally the same... I hope its not that I'm manipulative... I hope they are saying it out of heart and not to just keep the relationship moving.

 

Either way, I'm always a very analytical person when i say things... so saying "love" has me question myself... always have... even after I loved someone for 2 years... I still questioned saying the word every time.

 

But I can say that I respect and admire her more than any girl I dated. So that has to have credit for something. Appreciate the quick response Ghost.

[Entropy Smith]

Well if you get sick of her you can always say " I love you but i'm not in love with you."lol

[Aviatormy]

love can hit whenever i think. saying it is scary though. especially when the other person doesn't say it back. but you got lucky and she said it. congrats. just hope it works out and you both actually mean it. whenever a feeling like that overwhelms you, get it out. love has never hit me that fast though.

 

I think that it is a safe ground for it to be said for as long as you both know that you love who you are to each other and not nessessarily "IN LOVE".

 

My GF and I are at 2 months now and we say it to each other as well. The only difference is, when she tells me, she looks me in the eyes with a big ol smile and means it. I say it to her as if I am saying "I love who you are and how you treat me so far" it can mean something totally different when you two say it but the good thing is, your saying it!

 

Just make sure that you don't leave the honeymoon phase... make your whole relationship a honeymoon. Keep making her laugh, teasing her, joking with her, pleaseing her, giving her space when needed and do not smother her once you two become "comfortable"... This would be a great time to start to hold back on talking and text her so much. Let her be sure that she is not your whole life. Just be laid back and take whatever attention she is willing to give. Don't make plans to see her everyday. Have your own life as well.

 

BEST OF LUCK AND CONGRATS!

[Boughs]

Well, my job will always keep her... well... in check I guess as it involves naked women all around me, and no I'm not a porn star lol. Yeah, I can see how a hold back thing can work. I think we are forced to keep our distance due to work. I see her about three times a week right now... but I have been victim of "seeing her too much" before with a different relationship, so I'll try to stay as aware as I can right now.

 

Appreciate the advice, keeping oneself interesting is always important.

[boo121]

I think you guys have some affection for each other, which is cool. But i wouldnt say i love you until im absolutely 100% sure i mean it