Caterina Posted February 16, 2008 Share Posted February 16, 2008 I've been wrong about guys liking me a lot. I've thought they liked me when they didn't and thought that they didn't like me when they did. So how do you know so you don't look like a fool? There is this very good looking guy who works at an exchange company who flirts with me in that he smiles at me and asks me questions about myself. Next time I see him, should I give him my number or should I see if he asks me for mine? Maybe I'm wrong...maybe he's just bored and is flirting for a good time? Link to comment
rs.dallaire Posted February 16, 2008 Share Posted February 16, 2008 Ultimately, you're the only one who can truly judge if the situation is worth pursuing. Sometimes people flirt because they're truly interested, other times they flirt simply because they want to have a bit of fun. Keep in mind some people are just naturally flirtatious as well. Link to comment
Altruist Posted February 16, 2008 Share Posted February 16, 2008 Talk to him a few more times to built the rapport. If by that time he hasn't given you his number then give him yours and perhaps organise an activity with him. Link to comment
Caterina Posted February 16, 2008 Author Share Posted February 16, 2008 Are there other ways that sort of indicate interest? Is there a way to make him ask me for mine? Link to comment
Altruist Posted February 16, 2008 Share Posted February 16, 2008 That's a tough question. Some guys understand women more than others so one guy might get the hint when you say something suggestive while another guy will not. Maybe you could ask him how he spends his weekends/what his interests are then ask if you can join him on one of his weekend activities. Link to comment
Gratsy Posted February 16, 2008 Share Posted February 16, 2008 Yeah, I'd definetly like to know how to tell these things myself. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 there are signals. you feel them. you pick up on them. but nothing can prove it without asking. Link to comment
rs.dallaire Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Smiling and asking questions is not flirting. Be open, be available and smile. If the guy is interested, he will make a move (unless he is extremely shy). Link to comment
Caterina Posted February 20, 2008 Author Share Posted February 20, 2008 Smiling and asking questions is not flirting. Be open, be available and smile. If the guy is interested, he will make a move (unless he is extremely shy). I was talking to this one guy who said that the guy might fear rejection b/c he's unsure. What does that mean and is it true? Link to comment
rs.dallaire Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 I was talking to this one guy who said that the guy might fear rejection b/c he's unsure. What does that mean and is it true? I am not sure how I could add anything to a rather simple statement. As to whether it is true or not, why are you asking us? Link to comment
Caterina Posted February 20, 2008 Author Share Posted February 20, 2008 I am not sure how I could add anything to a rather simple statement. As to whether it is true or not, why are you asking us? Some guys won't ask because they're afraid. I'm wondering if this guy was hinting to me that he was afraid. Link to comment
rs.dallaire Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Some guys won't ask because they're afraid. I'm wondering if this guy was hinting to me that he was afraid. Just so I get the story straight, you are interested in A and think he might be flirting with you. Then you speak with B, who is a colleague of yours, and B thinks that A won't ask you out because he fears you might reject him? What is A's relationship to B in all of this? Link to comment
Caterina Posted February 20, 2008 Author Share Posted February 20, 2008 Just so I get the story straight, you are interested in A and think he might be flirting with you. Then you speak with B, who is a colleague of yours, and B thinks that A won't ask you out because he fears you might reject him? What is A's relationship to B in all of this? The only relationship they'd have is that they are both male and friends of mine. BUt I'm also wondering if B was hinting that HE was afraid to ask me out and thats why he said that. Link to comment
Gratsy Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 The only relationship they'd have is that they are both male and friends of mine. BUt I'm also wondering if B was hinting that HE was afraid to ask me out and thats why he said that. What is the context of the relationship with B? And what was the contexxt of the conversation? Link to comment
rs.dallaire Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 All I can say is you are wondering too much and thinking way too much. Not much else to add. You seem to be all over the place, assuming this, thinking about that, being interested in two guys at the same time, etc. Get your stuff straightened out and make a move. Link to comment
yellow_sweater Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 BUt I'm also wondering if B was hinting that HE was afraid to ask me out and thats why he said that. No. Not at all. He could have been talking about another woman he's interested in. He could just be making a generalization. He could be trying to give you advice as to why A hasn't made a move. I have to agree with other posters... think less, trust your intuition more. Yes, you'll probably screw up a few times and assume that someone is into you when he's not, or you won't notice that someone is into you when he is. The only way your intuition will improve, however, is by USING IT and REFINING IT based on your successes and failures. Link to comment
Gratsy Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 No. Not at all. He could have been talking about another woman he's interested in. He could just be making a generalization. He could be trying to give you advice as to why A hasn't made a move. I have to agree with other posters... think less, trust your intuition more. Yes, you'll probably screw up a few times and assume that someone is into you when he's not, or you won't notice that someone is into you when he is. The only way your intuition will improve, however, is by USING IT and REFINING IT based on your successes and failures. Hmmm how do you do that? Link to comment
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