Not responding e-mails? No intereted in?

[sunnysky2k]

A guy, 1 month ago, told me that he is interested in having a drink together. A week ago, I sent e-mail implying that I like to have. I haven't got his response yet.

Do you think he changed his mind, or his situation?

I feel a jerk, sending a such e-mail to him.

[Mavh25]

How come you waited so long to respond and tell him you wanted to take up his offer? he mya just have lost hope and not checked for a response?

[annie24]

um, yeah, sounds not so interested if he hasn't tried in the last month to follow up. anyways, you tried. NEXT!

[toshiba]

By now, he could have met someone else. Or he could feel that since you took so long to respond, he's not going to be too quick to respond back.

[wayoverit]

You were "playing hard to get" in his eyes. It's a total turn off for most men.

[annie24]

my questions are what exactly happened? did he ask you out, or just kind of say in a wishy washy manner that you 'should get a drink sometime' but without a concrete day/time. or, did he send you that e-mail, but then you didn't contact him back for 3 weeks? who was the last person to initiate contact?

 

if he suggested drinks, and then you were silent for 3 weeks, i can certainly understand why you are not hearing from him now - he feels hurt and shot down. i certainly wouldn't jump at a chance to go out with a guy if he ignored my email for 3 weeks unless he was out of the country or something.

[Stinking Rose]

Most men don't like to waste their time. They want to test the water first before plunging in. When they ask you to meet, it's either you meet within a week or they move on to someone else.

 

It wasn't that you were playing hard to get. There probably wasn't enough interest on your part then. But as others have said, he definitely has moved on. You did what you could do and that is to send him a note that you're still interested in meeting for coffee.

 

Good luck.

[Clementine orange]

If someone took three weeks to get back to me about an invite then, yeah, I would lose interest too. Who needs that? There are women that will take 2 days to get back to you. Much better.

[ghost69]

i would disregard the person altogether. obviously they didn't feel anything if it is taking this long to get back to me.