I think my b/f is always looking @ porn when I'm not around.

[MoonlapseVertigo]

It drives me crazy. First off, I always want to be around him because I guess I'm ready for that. I'm 23 and I wish we could live together, but the next best thing is sleeping over. But with recent events, I need to give him space. It used to be once a week that I would stay at my own place and now I'm going to increase that by probably 3 times a week.

 

My problem is that while I'm here, it seems that as soon as he gets in from school or work, he is constantly online and I can't help but think that the whole time is porn-related. I'm sure that he is downloading and wondering how many times he is getting off. It drives me crazy. Then I'll try and call and it's busy until the time he's ready to go to bed or possibly go at it (again maybe).

 

I also hate that he looks at certain famous people. I DESPISE one particular person. It makes me think he's obsessed.

 

Someone help me!

 

How do I deal with all of this? I don't know if he's obssessed with porn and/or that one specific famous person.

[sisterlynch]

Why are you tip toeing around this guy like a land mind ready to explode in your face, you are more jealous than a two headed cat looking in a mouse hole!

 

Why do you like him? He seems unavailable and a creep at the same time, is this how you see him?

[Gilgamesh]

first off you need to get rid of those insecurities.

 

Why do you think its porn related? and even if it is, do you assume that everytime he is online its about porn?

 

hey I like looking a nude women too, but I would never cheat on my girl or love her any less.

 

I spend many hours online everyday, I chat, I write in the forums, and play online games, like Shadowbane and Planetside.

 

From the little i could pick up from your post, id say your a little insecure and smothering, this is why you feel you need to "give him space" etc.

 

Listen, i had a girlfriend we had sex maybe 2 two days out of the week, the other days I did get off on my own, so ? yep he may be doing that.

why are you afraid that he is getting off alone? or to pictures? I'll just take a wild guess, Britney Spears? do you think she will take him away?

 

Hey if my girl cant see me and she needs to feel good, I couldnt care less, and would probably encourage her to please herself when i cant be there. should i be jealous? selfish? nah, im not worried about it.

 

by the way, who is the celeb?

[musicguy]

I've seen a lot of posts on a lot of message boards regarding porn, boyfriends and their girlfriends not liking it. Well here's my opinion. I worked at a porn shop for two years, I've met some porn stars and I have a good collection of porn..okay I have a HUGE collection of porn. Now my significant other didn't like me working there, but it was a job and it paid the bills. Anyway porn and celebrity fantasies are just that...fantasies. My significant other and I are in an LDR, porn is my "sexual tension reliever" cuz I know that I'm going to be having sex with my fiance sooner than I am a porn star or female celebrity. Watching or downloading porn is a "guy thing" if it affects your sex life then talk to him and find out what the deal is.

 

Musicguy

[MoonlapseVertigo]

I honestly don't know why I even posted this because it isn't my worst problem. (Please see my other thread in this forum if you are interested.)