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Why's it as though some of us guys compete for who is the most unsucessful with women

ilovepoemsalot

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boo121 Apprentice

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Captain Planet - couple of quotes i picked up from you here...

 

"okay. I also don't like that I am expected to pay for dates."

 

Why would you think that you have to Pay for a date? Thats a decision you need to make, it's ur money!

 

"Well maybe its not all about what the women want for a change."

 

It's realising that it is not about what women want. It's about what you want. I know it's vague, but have you ever sat down and decided what you want for your life? How to make it better? Many years ago, i went into relationships, got dumped, got annoyed at myself, went into another relationship, got dumped again. I was getting depressed and my life was anal. BUT i thought, i'm more important than anything or any1, so lets make my life the way I want it to be! I was happier and things started to fall into place.

 

It's good that ur focusing on your driving test poems, good luck! Don't worry about women and all the successful guys, concentrate on ur thing.

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CaptainPlanet Community Regular

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For my life I want to work in a Tech field and make six figures... one day.

 

For dating I want someone good looking, intelligent and well adjusted. I think being intelligent is actually important. My family is just full of fruitloops so any woman I meet must be well adjusted.

 

My Mum is simple and my brother turned out simple too. Not a good position for a boy to be in, a girl can atleast use her looks to get married, my brothers basically got not hope.

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bulletproof Collaborator

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I think that men compete to be the worst just because misery loves company, period. It's interesting to me to read a thread started by someone who is in pain and then read responses by people wanting to talk about themselves. I realize that in some twisted way those posters want to show that the o.p. is not alone, but it's kind of selfish because it turns the focus away from the o.p. If you went to a therapist and told him that you were depressed, would you want him to say, "me, too!"? Of course not. Nobody here is expected to provide therapy, but it seems so ineffective to just commiserate with no constructive advice or focus on the o.p.

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ghost69 Mentor

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For my life I want to work in a Tech field and make six figures... one day.

 

For dating I want someone good looking, intelligent and well adjusted. I think being intelligent is actually important. My family is just full of fruitloops so any woman I meet must be well adjusted.

 

My Mum is simple and my brother turned out simple too. Not a good position for a boy to be in, a girl can atleast use her looks to get married, my brothers basically got not hope.

 

you won't be making 6 figures as a tech anywhere. unless it's like a medical techincian.

 

most women can deal with a nutty family. most people have a crazy family of their own too.

 

if you think a woman's looks is all she needs to get married, think again man.

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CaptainPlanet Community Regular

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you won't be making 6 figures as a tech anywhere. unless it's like a medical techincian.

 

most women can deal with a nutty family. most people have a crazy family of their own too.

 

if you think a woman's looks is all she needs to get married, think again man.

 

I was referring to a technical field.

 

You would be surprised of some of the salaries people can make in Australia.

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auburnslp Community Regular

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I just rated this thread as excellent as well...

 

OK one thing I picked up on in a previous post...poems you are learning to drive, seeing a therapist-good stuff. Seeing dr.'s for needed meds, great. Depression is a * * * * * , from what I can tell. My sister and my mom both suffer from it and are on AD's. But the cool thing is that they function very very well with the combination of proper meds and therapy if needed...

 

Now, Poems, you also mentioned a lack of willpower/motivation. You are struggling and saddened with the fact that you have been unable thus far to get a girlfriend. Let me ask you a question...

 

Is this struggle and sadness and focus on prior and current failure to get a girl not a little counter-productive to the poisitive steps you are making in your life right now? You are doing great things, and making great strides. But you are allowing yourself to be down, to beat yourself up over this one aspect (admittedly a big one) in your life right now...you are actually preventing yourself from FULLY enjoying, and FULLY focusing on the good things that are happening now, because you are focusing on what is missing.

 

This is a common issue with all of us when we are feeling down. It is far too easy to focus on what hurts, rather than on what feels good, when the two are both present.

 

But it is very important to push away that focus on what is gone, or in your case what is not there, with your absolute best effort. It is very important for you to continue on with the things that you are doing now, to use all your energy and focus on those things.

 

Because when you achieve those goals, that is when you have achieved success, and pride follows, and good feelings about yourself result...

 

And then, not only have you improved upon things in your life that you realized needed improvement, but you also achieve a level of confidence in that you realize that you are able to do anything you need or want to do,...

 

And THEN, not only will you be in the right place to divert your focus onto other things (girls for you), but you will have the tools with which to do so, successfully...

 

Hope that all made some kind of sense-still a little sleep deprived from the New Year's...

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Luke Skywalker Mentor

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Well, I'm 31 y/o and I'm still a virgin that has never seen a naked women before or had any relationship and my mom tells me who to date and I want to stay an extra year to see how my job goes before I go out.

 

I think my parents control over my life adds an extra dimension of misery than most other guys in my position, let's see what else there is I can say - well, I have no close friends or social life, I like watching Doctor Who, and was thinking of buying a fleshlight to see how a vagina might feel like.

 

Oh, I forgot, I also go on Toronto Escort Review boards, and say how I'm a virgin and how I cant get a normal girl to date me and say if I get a high enough rejection score then I may become a client.....and I've been on that board for two years with an alias "Virgin John" and I'm still making threads about my unsucessfulness with women on there too. Guess I'm an attention wh0re myself or something.

 

I'm so sorry.....

 

YOU ALL LOSE -- I'M THE WINNER OF THE COMPETION YOU BUNCH OF FREAKS - YOU GET IT -- I'M THE WINNER !!!!!!!

 

Now if you want to complain just shut up!

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Well, I'm 31 y/o and I'm still a virgin that has never seen a naked women before or had any relationship and my mom tells me who to date and I want to stay an extra year to see how my job goes before I go out.

 

I think my parents control over my life adds an extra dimension of misery than most other guys in my position, let's see what else there is I can say - well, I have no close friends or social life, I like watching Doctor Who, and was thinking of buying a fleshlight to see how a vagina might feel like.

 

I'm so sorry.....

 

YOU ALL LOSE -- I'M THE WINNER OF THE COMPETION YOU BUNCH OF FREAKS - YOU GET IT -- I'M THE WINNER !!!!!!!

 

Now if you want to complain just shut up!

 

LOL. This post has to go down in ENA history. Luke, you are a very unique person.

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ilovepoemsalot Enthusiast

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Thanks Auburn, it doesn't really bother me now, and I am focused on practising my theory test, doing driving lessons, and seeing a therapist.

 

And you're right, when the girl thing is really getting you down and your focus is usually on it all the time, it is counter preductive to the steps I'm taking in life now.

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