Natalia Dolce Posted September 30, 2003 Share Posted September 30, 2003 I care a lot for my boyfriend. However, I don't think he appreciates my physical entity enough. I am a petite clothes model, and I am in-shape and in my opinion, a sexy person. My current squeeze is a very serious, structured person, he's not into having sex before marriage for one reason only--an untimely baby would forever wreck and ruin his life goals and plans. He's pretty sexual at night, he seems to be physically into me, but somehow he seems to hold back too. He turns off the lights a lot. Most guys seem to want to leave them ON so they can see the action unfolding. This is troubling because: One time he told me he'd be in a relationship with either a woman or a man, it didn't even matter gender as long as that person was right and it was love. However, he did say he's only sexually attracted to women, and he'd feel strange doing things with a guy. He has joked around with me that I could be a guy in the dark. And he likes to play around in a doggy style position (no sex like I said), but he does enjoy touching my all-female region up on top. I feel pretty sure I would only like heterosexual relationships, and the same out of any man I love, so this confusion puzzles and worries me. And now, I just wonder if at night he's wishing he were with a man, in the dark, he can't see my face, in the dark, skin is skin! He isn't very experienced in relationships, being younger and all, and he was very smart and didn't fit in with the immature crowds of high school. So maybe this is just residual low self-confidence showing up in the bedroom, or just the way he prefers to do things? I just want to feel sexually and physically attractive to him, but I can't be sure. Can people feel very attracted to their partner without acting over the top about it? Or is there a problem? Like, could he perchance, be more attracted to the male form? Thanks, NATALIA Link to comment
DREAM Posted September 30, 2003 Share Posted September 30, 2003 Oookkkk well guys are very experimental. And I know it's not a nice feeling if your guy is imaging that you're a guy. Why don't you just ask him right out. Why he would like the lights off. Like you said you have it all look wise maybe he is insecure about the way he looks?? Link to comment
mb_guy Posted September 30, 2003 Share Posted September 30, 2003 I think that you are over reacting. Some guys have their preference. Some like it with the lights on, some like it with the light off. Personally I like it with the lights off. Link to comment
bleeder Posted September 30, 2003 Share Posted September 30, 2003 Hi, He could be having some form of insecurities. I am not slamming those who have sex in the dark, but I must admit that for a guy, it is kind of odd. Have a talk with him. Ask him subtly why he prefers the action in the dark. Keep us posted. Link to comment
charmed Posted September 30, 2003 Share Posted September 30, 2003 Hi ! I don't like sex under 100W bulbs myself, but sexy lighting is totally acceptable. As for his intentions, well he could be thinking about sleeping with a guy as quick as you could be thinking about sleeping with a girl or another guy at the time. I suspect that you are over-reacting. Asking him straight out will probably result in him clamping up on this if he is actually thinking about guys, so I wouldn't ask him straight out. Play it cool, and see where it goes - and have a look at the lighting issue - invest in some lava lamps or some other form of cool and not so intrusive lighting !! Hope this helps you some, Link to comment
Natalia Dolce Posted September 30, 2003 Author Share Posted September 30, 2003 Thanks to all who have answered, I will see if he'd be willing to try some "sexy" lighting, and maybe I'll ask him why he would like to turn the lights out. I probably am overreacting, but I think he's so sexy, I'd at least like to connect with him visually somewhat. Thanks again, and more input is welcomed gratefully! Link to comment
Shyguy24 Posted October 1, 2003 Share Posted October 1, 2003 First of all I really like your name (totally off topic..lol) its very sexy, I think you are overreacting , you should ask him about it , communication is the key . Good luck Link to comment
genello Posted October 1, 2003 Share Posted October 1, 2003 your reating to much dear! when im make i prefer light off dunno why but its the way i am he he he Link to comment
Natalia Dolce Posted October 2, 2003 Author Share Posted October 2, 2003 Thanks, you guys are all so great. Your input helps so much. And Shyguy, thanks! I like my name, too. NATALIA Link to comment
Shyguy24 Posted October 3, 2003 Share Posted October 3, 2003 Hey Natalia ur more than welcome i wish u all the best take care Link to comment
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