Nick

Thanks for your help guys. I really appreciate it. I know its been a while, but here's how things are going: I invited her to prom when we were both at a party about a week or two ago. She said yes which is great. We both have a different group of friends, so the dinner before prom we are going with her friends and then to some guys house (since we will all be a little thirsty). Then prom and afterprom, and then we are taking a limo to galveston (beach in texas close to houston where i live). Galveston is going to be with all of my friends. (we compromised) We plan to quench our thirst all night and just have fun. Since we do have some friends that are good friends with both of us, I hear from one of them that she is willing to give me head, and the other saying she said she will have sex with me. Even though with that sentence she really sounds like a slut, i can assure you that she is not a slutty girl at all. She has had a few drunken nights where she did some things she has regretted, but overall she is not a slut. Im really not concerned with all of that (yeah it will be fun, but thats not the only reason i like her), but wouldn't that mean she liked me? I could not see a girl doing that to a guy she didnt like. What do yall think? Some notes: I am pretty shy and she kinda is too. especially around me i think. She wont let me buy her her prom ticket and pay for her stuff, even though i have offered. (kinda makes me feel bad) We have been getting closer this past week which has been nice, but im still nervous around her. Its weird because i am good at flirting with girls, but i just cant with her, i dont know why. Theres just something about her that keeps me attracted to her. We are both seniors, but we are both going to the same college (not because we want to be together, just because we both want to go there), so that could not hinder a relationship. Things are just weird because even though she didnt have much ambition to be with me before(and i know she wanted to), it is even worse now, which confuses me as to what she thinks about me. As you see I am still confused, but i plan to figure it out all this weekend. I need some help with that too. Since we are probably going to share a bed, i'll just talk to her there. I need something to say but I always screw up and get nervous during stuff like this. I was thinking about just asking her what she thought about me, and then telling her that i really liked her and wanted to know if she was interested in a relationship (nothing serious). Do yall have any good "speeches" that would work good in a situation like this? Any ideas on what to say since i really suck at this? Yall can even type it out for me im so bad at this (im not kidding). i really appreciate your help guys. Im sorry for the lenght of this post but i start writing and just get carried away. thanks again, you guys are great. please help though since this is happeneing really soon. -Nick

Sorry for the length of this, but I just don't think it all can be explained without it. Heres the story: I have been going after this girl for maybe a month to 6 weeks now, and I thought things were going great, but now I'm just confused. Lets just call her Liz. Well I have know Liz since the beginning of last school year since we had a class together. Back then she had a boyfriend, but even then I was attracted to her, but I wouldn't do anything because I have known the guy since I was a kid and she seemed happy with him so oh well. The year progressed and they started fighting a lot and eventually they broke up. That summer she was in Mexico for most of it and when she came back she would run with me a lot, but then I didn't want any kind of relationship with her because I was going after this other girl (Maya). We would talk about Maya when we ran and I would ask her for advice and we would just talk about stuff that was going on. After a while we stopped hanging out though kinda lost our friendship i guess. (or the closeness) The next year started and we had another class together and we would always have a lot of fun in there talking and we were pretty good friends. The stuff with Maya died (haha that was my last post here), and I became interested in Liz again. We started hanging out a lot again and I hear from one of her friends that she likes me. The problem though is that after we stopped hangin out I have always been really nervous around her, so I guess that kinda stopped stuff from happening. Nothing happened that time and things kinda died. We were still friends in that class though. Well later that year, she came over one night when my parents were gone, as well as a bunch of m friends and some of her friends. That night i had a lot of fun just hanging out with her. So I kinda like her agian, so I talk to one of her friends on AIM and I find out that she feels the same way. This time I am determined to not let this slip through my fingers, so I make sure to be more aggressive. Well It worked and on valentines day I put a rose on her car and that night we ended up kissing right before she had to go. Things were going great. We started hanging out pretty much every day and she would always want to do stuff with me. We went to the beach one weekend with friends and pretty much couldnt keep our lips off of eachother's. Things between us were awesome. All next week we would just hang out in my room and make out and just have fun together. Now heres the bad part. We then were both busy with school, so we did not get to hang out much after that. Well shortly after all of that whenever I asked her if she wanted to do something, she would say no. She alwyas had a good excuse, but if you really like someone I think that you would make an effort to be with them. After a while i just thought that she didnt like me anymore. I was really sad about this but still tried to be with her. Well last weekend i had a lot to drink and i thought to myself, self lets go find out what the deal is with liz. I kinda pissed her off a little (didnt realize it though, was just trying to have fun with her and joke with her but i guess i took it too far). We kinda drifted apart and now it seems as if we arent even friends (in person, online we talk a lot). But then a day or so after that i hear from her friend that she wants me to take her to prom. So not im really confused. I do like her a lot, and i have no idea what she thinks about me. I hear from her friends that she thinks i am mad at her and thats why she is acting like this. What is going on?

Hi, my name is Nick. This is my first post here. I need advice on what to do about a girl. Heres my story: I've liked this girl for a long time (Maya). BTW, I'm a junior in high school and shes a sophmore. I've known her for about six months and have always been attracted to her. We have gotten really close and are pretty much best friends now. We talk on the phone for hours every night and see eachother every day. I really like her a lot and want to hook up with her. Well last friday we went to my friends house and she smoked a little and we went into a bedroom just to talk like we always do. We flirt a lot and we stuck our tongues out at eachother and she started licking my tongue. Then later that night she was hungry so i took her to Wendy's. She got food and i asked her for some fries and she put them in her mouth and told me to get them. Well i got the idea that she liked me so i was really happy because i liked her for so long. Then on sunday we smoked a little and she came over to my house. We were watching TV in my bed, and we made out for about 45 minutes. When we made out I was the happiest i have ever been in my life. I really lover her so much and I want to be with her so badly. We both fell asleep after we had made out and we woke up later and she had to get home. I took her home and since then I havent really talked to her much. Her mom grounded her for some reason and we had finals the next week so she had to study. At school I don't see her too ofter either. I wanted to ask her what she thought about Sunday but never had the chance. Well it is now Friday and she had to Corpus Christi with her family so I can't see her this weekend. She comes back the night before we go back to school for the rest of our finals. The thing is that I just don't think that she likes me. Even though weve both been really busy and she is not supposed to use the phone, she can still find a way to talk to me. Shes called me once this week but it was only for about 10 minutes because her mom came home, and we never talked about anything important. Her mom is a big bitch who wont let Maya do anything. The only person who can see her is her ex boyfriend, because her mom really likes him. He just finished his freshman year in college. I've heard that hes been going to her house a lot and I think that maybe she likes him again or something. He also treats her really bad and he makes her cry a lot, and whenever that happens she cries on my shoulder. It just seems that she doesn't want to be with me much or talk to me much at all lately. Even thought she is grounded she could still find a way. And this only started happening after we made out. Before she would call me all the time even if her mom told her to get off the phone. She would stay up late so she could call me after her mom went to bed. Shes still really nice to me and hugs me all the time, but it just seems like doesnt want to be that close anymore. I'm sorry if this doesnt make sense, its just hard to explain. But I just don't know what to do. It seems like she now likes her ex-boyfriend and doenst like me. I just really thought things would happen between us because we made out and stuff. Well I just don't know what to do. I need advice. Do you think she likes me? Should i try to hook up with her? I want her really bad. What do I do? thanks -Nick