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If he screws up big and then just ignores her and expects HER to go after HIM when she is howling mad for what he did, I think he will be very lonely waiting for that to happen, unless she has absolutely NO selfrespect. And he obviously has no respect for her if he does this.

A Question for the Guys: If you were in an long term committed relationship (or married) and you did something really stupid, like sneeking around to see another woman, and your partner caught you and she was very upset, angry and hurt by what you did, what would you do to try to win her back?

How does someone correct the mistake of being a doormat? I am in a relationship with a man (for 12 yrs) and found that he was lying to me about a female friend for about a year now. All along I knew something wasn't right. I listened to his excuses, knew they were B.S., but let him get away with it. I lied to myself because I didn't want to deal with the truth. So, he naturally repeated this violation several times. Although I believe he is no longer seeing her (for now anyway), I am angry at him and at myself for allowing it to happen. I don't think he has as much respect for me anymore. I want to regain his respect and regain my own, as well as let him know that I will not tolerate this behavior and lying again. I almost wish he would tell me a big whopping lie so I could just prove to him and myself that I won't tolerate it anymore. But if that were to happen, the only other method of showing him I mean what I say this time, would be to ask him to leave and I don't think he would try to come back. ( I think he knows I have hit my limit this time) Should I just try to forget what has happened in the past? If so, how do I get rid of these angry feelings towards him for taking advantage of me and the angry feelings towards myself for allowing it to happen? I just feel like I need to do something. That I can't just ignore what happened and pretend everything is just fine and I'm happy - because I'm not. Thanks, Linda F. (the angry, humiliated doormat)

I have seen a lot of these forums where Men say they don't understand women. They say, "how do I know what she wants" Well, I thought I would not have this problem in my relationship because I TOLD him what I want and what I need to be happy, in a loving and caring way. And I have asked him to do the same, though he doesn't. I told him I can't read your mind and I don't expect you to read mine. So what do you do when you have informed him and he still doesn't act on any of it?