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Day 3: Feeling goood I'm already pro at this!
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Romanticism, First of all I would recommend that you make a new thread as not a lot of people will respond here You say you want her back? I would say to give her some space and just have her keep texting you to see what happens. She might just be unsure and still wants the option to use you as a sponge. However, if she keeps texting/calling you after that, I would see it as she is still interested. If she really wants to talk, you should go for it and reply back to her. Relationships will only happen if you communicate.
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Chelsea1987, Day 7 was also a hard one for me. It's your first week - and that's when you start wondering why he isn't contacting you. It's ok, it will get better in a few days Keep going.
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Day 2 (after 21 days!) Had a fine day. Talked for hours with friends on the phone and had a lovely time with another friend at an event tonight. Well, who was also at the event? Yup, guessed right - the ex. I walked right past him with my head high. Won't stop for him, don't care anymore. I'm living my life now!
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She might still be unsure and a bit curious about you. But I would ignore her request for now - not because it's a bad thing, but because it will drive you insane to see her new facebook pics, messages, etc. It will be harder for you to move on. Keep NC'ing!
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This is ridiculous and so unfair. What was supposed to be day 22 is now day 1. And it wasn't even my fault. After not seeing each other for over 2 months, today we just happened to cross paths at the university - so uncomfortable. And it was also yesterday that I discovered a picture of his new girlfriend. I think the world is plotting against me.... First the picture... then ex meeting me... Wow. can it get worse? so, I didn't break NC: chance did. This really sucks, and I was so happy to be close to 30 days and feel a bit accomplished. Here's to Day 1. At least we can do it together now, Dynamtiz.
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Day 21: Wow. Today is my lucky day? I was not only offered the job position that I had interviewed for, but I also was also offered a field position in Africa! Goodness, neither of these things would have happened if I had been with my ex. Perhaps this break up was good after all?
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Dynamtiz, welcome to! We have all been there. But I can assure you that it does get better after the first week. Hang in there and keep posting!
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I think that is my case as well. I have been idealizing him when in reality he is far from perfect. We often had difficulties together. I am just now starting to see a more objective perspective of our relationship.. It is interesting how time changes how you look at things.
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And, 20 days it is! Wow I can't believe how fast it has gone.
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Surfjon, Welcome aboard! I'm so glad you decided to join! As you know better than me, the first days are the roughest. Don't let her take you down. You seem like a wonderful person who deserves the best. Just hang in there and keep posting. It will get better. We can do this together!
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Day 19 I feel like I'm the only one posting in here! Where is everybody? I guess they are all moving on unlike me I had the interview today, and it went alright! They did tell me that over a hundred applicants wanted the position, and only four were chosen for interviews, including me! That's a booster at least I'm good at something lol...
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Post here instead of contacting your ex!
icantsay replied to Nynnja's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
It's been over 2 weeks and you haven't even contacted me. Where did you go? Where did those feelings we shared go? Remember when we hiked with the dogs, climbed up on the cliff together and had lunch. Remember when we saw the kite festival? Remember the nights we drove around trying to find tennis courts to play on, and we giggled for hours one the way. You sometimes made me laugh so hard that I couldn't stand up. What happened? I saw you have a facebook now. That's just great. Well, I guess I do too. It's so weird to see you from that side now. I promised myself tonight that i will never ever check your facebook again. It hurts so much to see that you are doing absolutely fine without me. I know I'm supposed to wish you the best, but I really don't want to. I hope you have a horrible time. I hope you find a new girl who will leave you and break your heart. I hope you will feel twice the pain i feel now. I hate what you have done to us. I hate you. I can't believe you let us go. -
Moonchill, Happy to hear others running out there! Yeah, it definitely helps with taking the mind off the breakup. And crazy with the reversal roles! Must feel good? After 30 days, also think I will have to celebrate with something! What are you thinking of doing?
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Ok, so day 18 has started - and I just wanted to pop in and say that yesterday afternoon I ran a 5k marathon, and wow it felt so good! Running really helps me be happy with myself. Also, I finally was invited for a interview next week! Still no word from ex.. who cares anyway! I ran a 5k!!
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It's been.. 17 days? Everything's alright except i secretly wish he would miss me. But i know that's not how it is, so on with life.. Hey, I did apply to a scholarship yesterday! So something is happening..
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Surfjon, I'm so happy to hear you are finding yourself again. I'm not there yet, but I hope I will be soon... It is just so tough to think about a future without him in it. I pulled myself together and applied to jobs last week - but I haven't heard from any.. So, I just feel like nothing is improving in my life right now. It's all really going downhill. But I have found that I am smiling a little more again. So I guess that's good...
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Day 14. Tomorrow I am half way through the challenge. I feel alright. I have felt a bit down the past couple of days but I am surviving it. Saw him on gmail chat today - didn't even know he was on that. I didn't write back.. enough with me trying anymore. Moving on, moving on. What a life..
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Day 10: woo! two digits I'm doing alright!
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Day 9: What a great day! Just heard that they will start interviewing applicants for the job I applied to next week. Hopefully that will go well! I also finally pulled myself together and went down to a vet clinic and asked to volunteer/intern. It is a dream of mine to go to vet school. Now it is time make that come true and build up my experience!! So far so good... Now, the rest of the day will be studying for midterms... urgh.
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sufjon, Your words are very true. It is comforting to know that years back, there were people struggling with the exact same feelings as we are going through today. It is a dance that always goes on. I'm sorry that you had to return to here... I cannot imagine going through this more than once. But I'm sure we all will several times in the years to come. You are not alone in here. Stay strong and keep us updated. Peace to you. Day 8: eh... this too shall pass.
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Great idea with leaving the phone behind! That's what I did too at first, and it really helped me to relax and not worry about him. Keep it up! It gets better day by day
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Day 7: Tough day, but I find myself more peaceful I am applying to two jobs today so crossing my fingers! I've been reading this thread from the beginning, and it is really cool to see how people slowly started to find themselves as the days went by. It gives me hope that I am not alone and everything will be alright. I read somewhere that it's not healthy to count the days - but it strengthens me to see how far I am. I know that 30 days is almost no time to heal - and that it will be a painful journey for a very long time. If I ever meet him again, it will happen way in the future. Probably years ahead. Honestly, I am starting to accept that. So 7 days - and I will keep posting - so that the future victims of breakups can see that, like me, it is also possible for them to move on Have a nice day everyone!
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Day 5 I survived yesterday! Stay strong everybody.