brokensoul

Hi Jasmine, I know someone who has a jelousy problem similer to yours. At first I tried very hard to be their friend. Then everytime that I told them something I had done, or had gotten or was going to do...they acted funny around me. And after a while it got to the point where they were so jelous that they actually got pretty nasty with me one day and nothing's been the same since. I avoid them at all costs, and I wish sometimes I had given them a piece of my mind about their behaviour when i had the chance. It hurt to know that I had tried to be their friend when no one else would and there were even times I was jelous of THEM but I didn't let on, or resent them for it. It seems that they are so afraid someone will do something they aren't , get something they dont have or whatever they go crazy trying to beat everyone to the punch and it really makes them mad when some one DOES. I feel this person's jelousy is focused at me mostly by the things they do and say around me. I think its strange since I actually envied them at times...but not to the point where I hated them. It makes me feel bad, and I spend a lot of time wondering what is up? Did I do something?? Just don't let it get so far that you have no friends anymore. Chances are the people you are pushing away by being jelous really mean well and want to be your friend and aren't trying to rub things in your face or make you feel bad about yourself. You are a special person too and have your own talents and abilities. And some of the people you are so jelous of probably envy YOU at times too. But trust me if you let this jelousy keep going, it will push everyone away.

Thanks a lot for the advice skater.you brought something to light that I never really thought of, and that's that I deserve to be happy too. I was just so caught up in trying to figure this person out, analizing what they say and do, trying to figure out what I did to make them act that way and if I have the right to feel the way I do, if it was my fault or what. I am just sick of it all...and I never thought of myself. Thank u.

I still feel pretty bad about what's going on with this person. I want to know how to forget it and not let it bother me. Its complicated because they are close to the family, which sucks because they are just not a nice person. they just act the way they do and get what they want, doesn't care about who's feelings they hurt and gets away with it, meanwhile I am supposed to be nice to them at family functions and go out of my way to try and be kind to them. Its really hard to deal with. Plus on the side lines I feel as though they are jelous and doing things just to be nasty. I feel pressure from the family to still be nice to this person just to keep the peace, and I want to, but I don't get anything but rudeness back from this person. Its awfully frustrating and driving me nuts worrying about it. Please, if anyone is going through anything similer or has any advice post it for me. I'd really appreiciate it. Thank you

Hi JD. I think the best thing to do is just be yourself. Girls don't like it when guys put on a show, or try to act like something they aren't. They like knowing that the guy they are talking is not going to be someone different outside of school. Don't worry about being nervous, girls are just as nervous about guys. Remember you are all in the same boat and try to have fun and be yourself.

Thanks for that advice Jasmine but I tried that, and it only seemed to make her worse. She seemed to get more frustrated that it didn't bother me, and that I wasn't buying into her game...so go figure. I guess some people just don't want to get along.

I am new here..but I need some advice. I have problems getting along with someone I know, and I am starting to think its because they are jealous. I tried to be friends and be nice to this person, but it seems like no matter what I do they have a nasty attitude towards me. Another thing is that whenever they find out I am going to do something they have to do it first, if they find out that I got something, they have to get it. I also find if I tell them about any hobby I take up, they start doing the same thing. I hate this. I feel like they think its a competition or something. They have been openly mean with me when we are alone and then when others are around they act all nice. I also know I am not the only person who has problems with them. Its really confusing and its eating me up to think that someone I told personal things and tried to befriend is acting like this. What should I do?? I am afraid of confronting this person because I don't want a fight....Please Help