I'm 23, male, and about 8 months out of a five year relationship, so I finally found someone else who I genuinely care about. We have been talking two months, slept together on several occasions, and everything has been doing fine. A couple days ago, I notice something is bothering her, so I ask her and I get the friend speech out of her. Come to find out, she is going back to her ex. Here is a little history on their relationship: they dated almost 3 years, hes abusive verbally (physically once that I know of), they break up at least twice a month over trivial things, and she calls her friends crying because of something he said or did once a week. Now I know I'm not God's gift to women, but I have been nothing but nice and the exact opposite of the way he treated her. All of her friends told me they hoped we worked out because of how good I am to her and that is what she needs. I told her I would try to be friends with her, but its kinda hard because her ex konws nothing about me and I feel like we shared too much to just go back to friends. Can anyone give me advice on a couple things: Why did she go back? Is there anything I can do to make her see how bad he is for her? Can I put my feelings aside and just be friends when I know she will be with her ex? Thanks people!
