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Well, I am ready to forgive if I can get him back! I posted my story already, so I am not going to go through the whole thing, but I must say it really hurts that he has someone else now. To think that he can throw away our two-year relationship, and decide to go out with his friend.... While I mope not being able to eat or sleep, he is enjoying this new relationship.... According to him, she turned into a romantic interest from "just a friend" over one weekend... How is this possible? (I know it is possible, but I just don't want to believe it....) It kills me to think that they are being intimate.... He jumped into this relationship knowing that it will hurt me soooo much, so I am assuming that he was willing to throw away any possibility of being back with me just to be with this girl.... All this after I've invested so much in the relationship with this guy.... Now I feel so worthless.... I am hoping that he would never feel for this girl the way he has felt for me, and that they'd break up soon. I am so afraid that as he starts to feel deeper for this girl, he'll lose all the feelings he has for me now. I don't want to be just another friend of his... But I know this is going to happen. I feel so threatened because this girl seems so much better than I am, and I feel like there is no way he'll come back to me.... I know that I just have to forget about him, but I feel so stuck and helpless.... I hate myself for trying to come up with reasons why his new relationship will fail.... I am trying to deal with it, but it's been so hard..... I know he hasn't done anything wrong technically, but I still find myself thinking, "How can he do this to me?"

Thank you so much for replying, Happy and K8tie! I basically know that I need to move on, but it is hard to let go what we had.... But then again, I cannot be in the relationship by myself, so I guess I have to move on.... Happy, I think you are right that he gave up on the relationship and that he knows what he wants for now---unfortunately for me, for now, he wants to try dating other women.... Actually I have told him that I want him to take me back, but he said that he can't do that now.... K8tie, you are absolutely right that I shouldn't talk about his new relationship with him. I don't think he will talk to me about it willingly since he is a very private person. Actually, I think I would be more inclined to talk about it. I must admit that I am very interested in how it will turn out since at this point, as pathetic as this might sound, I am still hoping to replace her. I am hoping that this new relationship of his would not work out, and I hate myself for wishing this.... I feel so evil...... I guess once I completely move on, I won't care about his new relationship anymore. But I am afraid that at that point, I might not care for him at all. We were never really "just friends," and I am not sure that the friendship deal that we have right now would last. Besides, I haven't kept in touch with any of my exes in the past. It would be really sad if the same thing happens with him....

First, sorry about the long post.... My ex and I were together for a little over two years, and two months ago, he decided to break up with me saying that he needs some space. He also told me that he wants to try dating other women. He is 24, but I was his first girlfriend. Our relationship was pretty serious, and at one point, we were even talking about getting married in the future. However, he started having doubts since we, like most couples, had our share of arguments. I didn't think that these arguments were that serious, but obviously, he thought otherwise. Now, he wants to date other women to see if there are other women more compatible with him than I. But even after we broke up, we were talking regularly. It was like we were still sort of together. Anyway, this past weekend, he was visiting his old female friend whom he liked five years ago but rejected him then, she asked him out, and they decided to try dating. She lives 7 hours away, and before he left, he assured me that she was just a friend. Since he is not the kind of person who would lie, I don't think he was lying to me. I still can't believe that he decided to jump into the long distance relationship so quickly....He used to tell me that he does not like the idea of long distance relatonships.... (By the way, I live about an hour away from him.) When he broke the news to me, he told me that he was afraid that he would end up alone, because he senses that things might not work out between him and the new woman, and he is sure that I wouldn't take him back after what he has done to me. He says he wants to stay friends with me, because I am "the nicest person" he's ever met. He also tells me that he cares for me and still loves me, and that he doesn't feel for her the way he has felt for me. But he has to try dating, because, without any experience being with other women, he doesn't know if I am really the right person for him considering how he and I are very different people. Needless to say, I am very hurt by his decision--especially after he swore to me that she is just a friend. I don't want to be his back-up plan. I mean, what am I supposed to do if I wait around and things end up working out between them? At the same time, though, I do want him back, so I said that we can stay friends--I want to keep channels open just in case. But it makes me sick to think of them together, and hurts me that he is being intimate with someone else.... How can he see me as a friend all the sudden and develop an interest in some other girl? Do you think there is any hope if I wait around? I know I should move on, but I have dated a lot, and I know that what I had with this guy is very special.... Am I clinging on to a false hope?