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And good luck to you.If something happens in the near future lets us know.
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You should remove her from everything except email. Ignoring her is the best way to go.Erase her phone number.Shes the one who has to chase you. Dont worry she knows where you are.Now its about you,not her.Show her that you dont care anymore and move on in anyway that seems fit for you. You're first,shes last ! Let her be and wait patiently. Im sure she will try to communicate with you but dont answer back in anyway.Reconciliation or nothing.(unless you dont want her anymore).Take care of yourself,thats the most important at this point and time.
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No friendship after a break-up,it will only torture you.Send her an email saying : HI,i know its difficult for you,but worse for me.So please do not communicate with me anymore.I need to reflect on my position.Friendship doesnt work for me because i love you to much.I wish you all the best and send you my all my love. Thats it,nothing more.Go NC and wait.She will react soon or later.She needs time also to find herself.Dont respond to emails or phone calls.If she calls just listen to the messages.The only time you can communique with her its if she ask for reconciliatiion.It will be hard but its mostly for you to get out of the rut,or hell ! No fb ,msn or anything like it. She will have time to miss you if you do it well.Its the best you can do for now,just gang on. Take care of yourself and stay very busy till you are a bit more confortable. It will get better,just need some time. Hope she still loves you enough and theres nobody else in her life.
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Wow ! Thats some story ! Love is blind isnt ? Once we are out of it we finally see that it wasnt all that golden ! It looks like hes a kind of invertebrate ! Not defending you was so cowardly sick...yuk ! Plus hes soooo unstable. Damn LOXXT, you know now you can do better. Seriously he wasnt for you. I think by breaking up with you was the best gift he could ever given you. Who needs that much drama.. and have to carry all the responsibilities. Your only option is to move on and forget this guy. You need a whole man, not half of one ! A negative turning into a positive. When i think of it, your a real lucky women now ! That was a close call ! Imagine if you had a child with him ! Thank God it didnt happen !
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I feel you. Just dont forget yourself here. Remember all his bad qualities ? That didnt change..he is still the same.What hes thinking about you dont want to know.Its been 2 weeks NC,maybe your too hard on yourself. I did cry after two weeks,that part for you is almost over.Hang on you will get stronger,i promiss ! *ps,he smokes and drinks coffee at the same time,i know u hate that !
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I agree,its a living hell ! But time does heal..i know trust me. Just give yourself a chance and take a break. I still think of her after 5 months but aint the same anymore. Believe you will get better and what else would you do ? Just stay busy and go out as often as you can. Do all its possible to be around friends or family,dont be alone too long. You will get there ! Hang on a bit longer and it will set you free !
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KVB10....thanks ! And dont worry you will reach that goal too !
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Well allready month number 5 ! NC served me well,no more pain or expectations of any kind. I got my life back and enjoying it a lot more. I remember my first two weeks,i was a wreck..it was so horrible,i saw hell for the first time and i hope i never go there again ! Yes its true,i still think of her and sometimes i still feel a pinch in my heart. Never felt that way before and i wouldnt wish that on my worse ennemy.All my vital signs are back to normal,its awsome ! Takes a lot of guts to stay away but i knew there was no solutions,only reality and accepting the fact that i couldnt change the course it tooki.I was the back seat driver. I knew when i came here that NC would not be a miracle worker to bring my ex back,but i knew it was going to take me out of my misery. The help and support i got from everyone was enormous and constant.Thanks to eveyone,its well appreciated.I will stick around a bit longer to help others.That will be my gratitude towards those that are suffering like i did. Just believe that NC does work to heal and if the ex doesnt come back its not the end of the world. All it takes its time and some courage to get over it. Im the proof that anyone can achieve this.
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I do get my moments of insanity everyday,but its only for 5 minutes,lol !
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Shes one crazy b1tch !
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I agree,theres nothing to gain but a lot to lose ! Dumpers need to know we are not looking for crumbs.Once you ignore them they become like us,dumpees ! And then you get all the control back and they feel rejected.From there dumpers and dumpees are finally equal. Its a cat and mouse game.Playing well is the key if not fuc*** it ! After a whiile we come to the coclusion its not worth it and we let go for good.
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Dont do that ! You will be regressing ! What will you obtain really ? More pain ? Show him you can do and you have a spine ! I mean it. If you do you will regret it ! He will know you that are still hooked on him no matter what you say,i know i would ! Think twice before you do. Its my opinion.
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Forget him,think of yourself.You dont like him dump him.Too early for him to get hurt. Who in his right mind would have expectations after a date or five ! If he does,its time to run. No kissing or anything lol...hes not to good at it. Hes not me for sure.
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So very true ! I lived it...i know.Unless they are from another planet,lol.
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I still get those feelings even at the 5 month mark ! And i dont even want her anymore ! What can i say,i miss her,her personality and all the sh1t ! She has to make the first move,not you ! Give more time,you never know ! First its about you,move on,dont wait for her ! Myself i have 3 girls in line,i have to make a choice soon.What an ego boost lol ! Do the same,go hunting and enjoy it,dont waste time its not worth it.Dont forget yourself,thats what im saying,enough with the bleeding ! You want to give blood go to the red cross,not your ex !
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I agree fully with you. It looks like your mind in clearing up ! You can analyse easely and thats good.For now forget your ex and concentrate on yourself only.Whatever you do dont force yourself to love another guy.Its natural,when it comes u will know for sure.Take your time and be very picky ! Even if it takes 2 or 3 months,slow is the way to go ! If u think you found the right one put him to the test.NO rebounds for sure,i really agree with you on that one lol ! Im proud of your achievement,i told you before,yes you can ! Yes...go Canada go ! Lots of gold from the women ! Great ! Take care.
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Hang on,dont listen to your needs ! Stay in NC for your own good ! Trust me on this,if you do you will get hurt a lot ! Just remember the first two weeks...you dont want to go there anymore !
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KVB10, You're doing great ! Will get better all the time.You are now in control.Excellent job my friend !
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You are assuming,dont forget this,hes not attached to the other girl ! You are still in between them believe it or not ! But i do agree he will try hard to forget you,can he achieve this ? Wont be an easy task ! I say that because im a man,been there done that ! And believe,it sucks big time !
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Stay in nc,soon he will start to panic.Dont give in to him,let him stew for a while.He will keep on trying,its not the last.Have the last word and see what happens.Ignoring him completely is the way to go for you.He doesnt want to lose you,im sure of that.If you move on,it will drive him nuts...imagine if you had a date and he finds out ! Think about it.
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Annon333, See " Reverse psychology and the rebound relationship " on ENA. Go to page 25.....read the post # 250
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in one simple word : ATTACHMENT
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Again trying to get a reaction from you.She will be back again with something new.She didnt forget you.Just hang on and wait.
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