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Its not day one because you took a look...just keep going from where you were.By the way,it might be her ! I would really think it was ! She will try all she can to see what your up to ! Do you really think she would tell you now that she misses you ? Of course not ! She wants to show you shes " tough " ! Women are very curious by nature,more than men.Good to know that shes snooping around.Let her stew over it,will do her good.And for you,stay has a ghost,for her you no longer exist !
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I never saw something like that before ! This is very unique ! She really took you for a ride ! That relationship cant be salvaged anymore. Sorry about that,i really wanted you to have success in getting her back.That experience will serve you for a lifetime,thats the positive side of it.You do deserve a lot better.Now its time for healing and forget her totaly and never talk to her again.Good luck to you,your a good man.
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As long as you have learned something from that small event its positive. Stop kicking your behind ! Stay away from it ! Every time you do so you push your healing further and further away ! Start to fall in love with yourself. Look in a mirror and tell yourself you are beautyful ! Think of the days you were whitout him and reach that goal.You were ok whithout him and you still are.Its always in between our ears.In NC he cant hurt you,you can only hurt yourself as you can see.Hang in there,you'll make for sure.
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Just hang in there and dont be negative,wont help none.You think too much,make your brain slow down a bit.The worse that can happen to you his having a terminal cancer.Your healthy,your young...the lights will shine again and for the better and you know that.Work on that part of your life.We can always find better,dream about it,its permitted to do so.
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Yes indeed it is hard,very hard,ask anyone in here including me.Ask yourself those questions: what good would it do to know what hes doing ? Or if there is a g/f ? Will only torture you ! The less you know the better it is. Its so gruesome to see that he might be happy whitout you.Or to see a picture of him kissing another girl on FB ! Stay away from snooping around,there is no advantage in it ! He wont forget you ok, so dont panic ! By being away from him it will make him think of you even more.If you brake NC you lose all the power you have left over him.Its your last hope and last chance to make a difference.If you have the urge to spy or call him or whatever,call a friend or family member,or come here for support.It will get easier with time.Soon enough your pride and self preservation will take over,it really will. And first of all,who is more important here ? YOU of course ! You cant be replaced by anyone.Keep busy as much as you can and start going out and have fun in anyway possible.Dont be alone for to long.When you go to bed,listen to a radio station(talk ,no music) to put your mind elsewhere.Start to think and believe its over,keep no hope alive it will only slow you down.If he loves you enough he will communicate.Hes thinking of you,trust me.Sometimes the dumper suffers just as much as the dumpee.So relax a bit,it will get better week by week.
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I really know how you feel,my relationship died after 5 years.Give yourself some time.Every week you will get better and better.The hardest part is the void..we just cant fill it ! Its a difficult choice you make, but their is no other options.Too bad because hes losing a good women.His lost right ? You probably been there before,you know how to forget as soon as possible. Good luck to you and take care.
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Same for me but 105 days ! Doesnt mean she wont ! Sometimes its in between 3 and 5 months(average from what i saw). NC is also about healing..no garantess the ex will come back,sad but true.
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OK,accept my apologies..is this case you are totaly right ! For that relationship to work he would have to go for a therapy...i dont think he will since hes the stubborn type.Hes abusive verbaly and emotionally. I think to much damage has been done here. For a man of his age,i believe they rarely change,no hope here.Unless hes ready and proves that he making progress somehow, you have to cut all contact.Many break-ups and no change... I think you should just let him go for good since the past says it all. You did your best,what else could you do ! Stay in NC and move on for your own sake and take care of yourself.
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Ok,leave it the way it is and wait..i think something should happen soon.If she talked to her mother about you it means she misses you ! Just give her more time.
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What is you're age group ? Argue over what ? Why so many break-ups by you ? Break-ups to kick his spirit everytime ? Hes pissed,anyone would be ! Many break-ups are verrrry badddd ! You're stubborn and so is he. Doesnt look good at all ! You were digging your own grave here.Maybe you took him for granted because he always came back.Sorry but you were immature ! You will need a miracle for him to come back to you,he wont give in so easely this time.NC in this case wont do much as far as i know unless you are ready and willing to lose him.What do you want ? tell me so i can help you the best way i can.I believe there is always a remedy for a problem. When you love someone a break-up is not an option.
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You're doing great,give yourself another month and you will be a new person.
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No its ok...But you're just hurting yourself by snooping around. The less you know while in NC the better.The other one can use that tool to hurt you or maybe to make you jealous.Remove him from your pc and keep only an email for him to contact you.Read th NC rule again
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I went trough a divorce once.See it has a break-up like any others who are not married if it happens.Stay positive,dont think about the " if " . Praying is good..God gives us wisdom to accept what we cant change ! God also says nothing will happen to a christian that is not common to others and that He will always let a door open to get out of a bad situation ! I believe in miracles,but its always in God's will since He knows what is the best for us .Whatever happens, you will survive and surely for the best. Hold on to that.Spirituality should always be part of a relationship.
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Many reasons exist,i would think its for communicating with you.I would not lose time on that..it could also to make you jealous..who knows ! You shouldnt access those sites were she goes to chat.Just use the email and block her on the rest.She has to miss you,she wont if she knows what you're doing.Just desappear from her.The only way she has to talk to you has to be by email and you should only answer if she wants reconciliation ! Anything less becomes baby food.You dont want to eat Pablum do you ? lol..Be scarce and forget her for a while,it will do you good even id it doesnt look like it..i know,trust me on that one.
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You could practice your favorite sports with friends,your bf doesnt have to be everywhere you go ! Yes the income is very important..but if you and he are working,all should be fine.In my early 20s,i use to work for minimum salary.. but years after i was making more the the average ! I had a new home,new car and a boat ! House paid in 17 years,Never had money problems. Traveled to the tropics twice a year for 2 weeks at the time. You need to have faith in your partner.Waiting for the nice and shiny armor might never materialise !
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LostDavid... thats why NC is so good,time will heal wounds.Its better than a band aid. Your wife re-evaluates the situation everyday.As her frustrations dies,she will tend to soften quite a bit.She will miss you even more,love you even more. Nostalgia should kick in and when it does,she wont be able to stay away from you any longer.The fact that you are married makes it a stronger bond. Thats why you must stay away from her and see what happens.Women are also good to talk about their problems with their friends,that part always worries me.Sometimes they want to get back to their ex or husbands but some lousy friends would tell them otherwise.That part is out of our control.If shes smart enough she will know better.Like is said many times before,if she wants you back, even wild horses wont keep her from reaching you.Of course we dont know how long it will take,but for you my gut instinct tells me about 2 months.Of course thats only my opinion,you know her much better then i.
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She told you shes hurt when she hears you... feelings ! She cares,you are her husband and she knows that.You cant sweep history and love under a carpet just like dust ! When a women is really mad, she can really bash you tills theres no tomorrow.When you give them time to relax,they tend to let their guard down.Dont forget,women are a lot more emotional,they tend to take decisions based on those.Men will mostly be the logical type and less emotion involved when they react to the same problems.If a women is sensitive and emotional,dont you dare shake their cage because you will know about it.Also women tend to accumulate their frustrations and when it comes out you dont want to be around.To come back to your wife,she wanted to be sure you are taking care of yourself..again feelings.She misses you even if she doesnt say so.But what worries me a bit,even when they love and care for someone,they tend to stick to their decisions.Doesnt mean your wife will do this,but keep it in mind.You know what she likes,if you talk to her again be prepared to play with that part,not about the relationship. If she wants reconciliation she will mention it.You listen to her,let her talk. Im sure you know what im talking about here.Let her win in everything,dont argue ever ! She got to be relaxed and let her guard down full time.Its hard to re-establish trust again.You will have to achieve that.If you do this,theres a good chance she will give you another shot at it.
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What about a man who is a bit older and mature with a 5 figure income and love to skate only ? Is it always about you or you would be willing to give and take ? You were looking for mr perfect and you found him ! If a man doesnt like snowboarding and wakebording but is a very good man and is willing to marry you,would you reject him ? If the poor bastard only has an income of $25 thousand a year,hes not good enough for you ? What if hes looking for a job,you wont be interested ? You need to grow up a litle and start to smell the roses.
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Most of relationships can be saved,people today will separate or divorce on stupid problems like money,bad communications,arguing fo no good reasons. If my ex told me i was commiting or its over..she had me right there.But she decided to go the other way.Our relationship was broken over bad communication.She didnt tell me she had enough of it..yes i knew but its good to be told and i needed a push.Now shes gone for ever,nothing i can do anymore.So i understand very well why you want to save your marriage.It does prove you love and care for her.I hope she comes to realise that you are still her love and husband. She still loves you,its the most important part to win her back.
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You said in a previous post that he was terrible to you ! What makes you think he will change ? People most of the time dont ! If you think that relationship has a chance to survive long term....did he truly loved you ? To him you will be nothing else but a doormat ! Dont forget,a man who loves a women will not treat her that way ever.
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The way you react tells me you will heal faster than most.You have a strong will to overcome problems.You are in control,thats excellent..that way you will take the best decisions. Now dont forget this,its very important..you are the one who will decide,not him ! The fact you dumped him because he was distant is a very very good call ! I expect your time here to be short. If he doesnt come back,you already know that you will be just fine whitout him.Hes a lucky man and he doesnt know it.I wish i was in his shoes and have my ex chasing me around for reconciliation(for my ego anyways).
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Upset because the jack a$$ didnt contact you ? Be real ! Gosh, throw him a bone and move on.Why are you so stubborn ? I repeat,you deserve a lot better ! You have said that men are after you,make a pick and forget about the litle doggy .What is the chances of being happy whit him ? How come you cant tell that you are wasting your time ? So many men waiting in line for a women like you who is a oneman women ! Why ride a Volkswagon when you can have a Rolls Royce ? Be real for at least a week.Im hard on you,but you deserve a call to wake up from this nightmare. Be all that you can be,but not with himk,ok ?
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Lots of blah blah blah from her.If she came back to you,do you seriously think it would last ? Its your first love and surely not your last.You dont deserve that crap,move on and get another and a better women.Let her make another man miserable instead of you.If you take her back,it would take an enormous effort to make it work.Is that what you want ? You didnt expect to be with her " till death do us apart " ! You need others relationships to find the ONE. Heres my opinion,break NC,email her,tell her you have a new gf and to never contact you anymore.She might crawl(if thats what you still want) or you'll know its totaly over ! Got nothing to lose far as i know.That way you will heal faster and you wont need to be here any longer.Just think about it.