lazee

I agree that you should send the letter. Though, I'm trying to move on from my ex, and I am currently not seeing anybody, I want him so badly to admit, to confess to having hurt me so badly as well. I don't think he understands how he messed me up, and even though it'll give me hope, I am smart enough to know that it ended for a reason. I would be friendly to him, and we could be friends, but I would not jump back into a relationship with him. The only way I would is if I'd changed and he'd changed and our new and improved selves were still interested, that way we can start again from the beginning. Anyways, I think you can send the letter, he'll want to hear it, even if it gets you back on his mind, everybody deserves a sincere apology, and if he's truly moved on then he'll appreciate the letter, put it aside and continue with his new relationship. Anyways, why did you break up with him? Think back to the reasons why you didn't love him/...

Well, Without knowing what I was doing, I went into NC as soon as I found out my ex (who technically dumped me, but I said the words) was seen flirting with another girl the day after we broke up despite him telling me he wanted to be friends. I was hurt and I wanted to protect myself. I managed it, then he messaged me 10 days later, it was a silly message, joking, I had nothing to say to him, so I ignored him for another 12. I finally came round and messaged him, nothing to do with our relationship, just an email saying all the best of luck in the future and other advice. He didn't reply, so having spent almost a whole day composing the email, I messaged him to read it. He replied not long after. Then there was silence, I wrote a reply to his message, and he did not reply. Then I left that too, a few days later, he was celebrating his birthday and I just wished him happy birthday and he replied. I know I should have left it at this, but curiosity got me, I replied once again and we talked a bit, me opening up a lot more about my life than he was. I was starting to sense that this guy was no longer into the friendship, so here I am, as of yesterday after waiting 10 days for no reply, I have begun NC. I actually begun it before reading this topic. I wish I had just continued NC, and as you wrote, if they want to hear from you, they know where to find you. I think it's an ego thing, or he's found someone else. If he has found someone else, the anger from that is like petrol to my 'I'm so over my ex machine'... I'm too nosey, that's my problem! Btw, I know nothing has happened to him so he is intentionally ignoring my messages.