Sabine3146

Currently, I am in a 2 year relationship with a guy who cheated on me one year ago. He cheated on me with his exgirlfriend, and I was devastated... I pretty much lived in a bathrobe in my bedroom for a month. We broke it off for a couple months, but then got back together, and everything has actually been going pretty well since then. We really care about each other. However, recently, I found out that he has been still talking on the phone and emailing the ex-girlfriend with whom he cheated on me. And it infuriates and hurts me! My question is: Do I have the right to tell him to cut off all ties with her? I have to admit that I snooped through his email inbox, and read an email from her asking him to visit her. And, if he says he will cut off all ties with her, how do I make sure it happens and stays that way? What else should I do? Thanks for any help from out there. You all are wonderful.

This is so frustrating. I did something stupid: I dated a guy I work with and live very close to. And things were great for awhile, but then he cheated on me. So, we broke up and it was so difficult for me because I missed him, but he moved on. He's now dating the girl he cheated on me with. So, now, I have to see them together because he lives close to me, plus I have to work with him. I'm trying to be mature about this, but everytime I see him, it hurts. And everytime I see them together, it kills. The wounds keep re-opening, and I find myself crying in pain a lot. What can I do??? I try to avoid them, but it's very hard to not keep running into them. How do I deal with having to see him and work with him all the time? He's trying to be pleasant, in his attempt to smooth things over for himself, but I'm still not at that stage yet. ARGH! P.s. there is no possibility of moving or changing jobs.

Two days ago, I came back home from a trip to find out from my boyfriend that he had cheated on me with his ex. It's not only the cheating, but also the fact that it was with this particular girl. Throughout our relationship, he still had feelings for her. He lied to me, and continued to tell me that everything was fine and that he was over her. I tried to break up with him before because he continued to talk on the phone with her, but then, we continued to stay together on the premise that I would trust him and that this ex would not be an issue anymore. But, obviously, this did not prove to be the case. I've cried so much and these past couple of days have been quite difficult. He is trying to apologize, but that is not enough. Despite all the wrongs I've suffered, the thing is, I would like to be with him again at some point... because we had our moments of happiness. Definitely not right now (although it is tempting), but perhaps when he is truly over his ex, and when he can build back the trust between us again. Do you think this is a reasonable possibility???? So, basically, my question is: How do I find out how he truly feels about his ex? Should we take some time apart, or do I move on? How can I ask him to rebuild trust without us being completely together at this time? How do I ask him to take time apart from me and see what the furture will hold? Can we and should we be friends at this time? This is especially important because we work together and he lives in the same apt building as me. Or is it more important that I just "burn the bridge"?