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  1. Crows
    Well after the aftermath of my ex dumping her abusive bf and being me the first to know about it...... i sent her a text today. Had a couple back and forth then nothing. Even though she needs time from when she broke up with him and poissibly getting back together with me.. im still on pins and needles.
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    Day zero............... My ex broke up with her bf and wants to go to dinner with me soon. WOw................
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    Day2.. ended.. my ex continues to do stupid things.. comes online for 2 minutes... "hey.. whats up" "im gonna go smoke a joint with my friend.. ile be back" needless to say.. she never came back. Who does she think I am? This is exactly what I meant when I told her she needed to grow up after she dumped me. Sigh...........hopefully she can learn in time... .... if she doesn't act quickly.. Il just continue to keep resenting her more and more every time she does something stupid like that. Call me being hopefully.. But I do believe she does want me back .. at least somewhat. I think she may be scared though.... at our coffee.. when she asked if I would take back my best friend who was awfull to me during the breakup i said 'hell no" and then she asked If I was going to take back my ex ex gf who wanted me back.. and I said "hell no" Shaking in her booties if she wants me back.
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    After her beating around the bush and not exactly knowing what she's doing or why.... I have a gut feeling it's her pride keeping in her way of actually talking to me about this and letting me know whats really going on. Many will beat me for this, but today I have a gut feeling that I need to sniff to find some things out. I am going to ask her if she can hang out this weekend... then I will proceed to say I still feel we have a connection. I need to know where she stands and how she will react. If nothing.. I go NC completely again. This is my gut talking to me today, and I am acting on it for the first time since I was begging for her back.. It's do it or go home for me now. I can't let my self suffer any longer. It's coming to a head, and it's make or break for me and her. Though.. it will be strategic and i will not put pressure on her. Only let her know some of my feelings. Good day to you all.
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    Ex contats me on msn... implies shes bord again.. ughh.. says she wants a salad from this place we always went to... i dont ask.. she doent ask to go..... so i wait............................. i say "oh are you implying you want to go ?" and she says "oh not tonight" blah blah blah. ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh its like we both dont want to ask
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    The official reason we broke up was "it wasn't working" I still try and figure that one out at night. I think we may have similar issues here. My ex has alot of issues. her parents were divorced from age 5.. she had no father pretty much and her mom was rarely around. SHe has some medical conditions including annorexia. She impoved greatly on alot of these issues while with me and I was very pleased with her. My ex may want to improve on herslf but she is also scared of being alone. I don't think she realizes how much I can put up with and how much I did and how much I would support her 100 percent through her problems of getting herself fixed. I'm still there for her, and I think shes seeing this now... that I have really been the only person ever in her life to support her through thick and thin besides maybe her mom. I don't really know what's going on with her and her bf, but it's not healthy from what i See. Two months dating and he's drinking again and hitting and pushing her. THis girl does not need this type of treatement.. she once tried to kill herself. She cannot have this happen to her! She broke up with me basically for a couple arguments we had and me accusing her of making me feel jealous on perpose.. and now her bf is physically abusing her and she says shes "optimistic, it may have been accidental" ohhh man.............................. denial.
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    We need to communicate better. Most importantly with issues we have with each other, that include even the most minute things that start arguments. Thats the way it always goes. Ive worked on my jealousy alot. I hope she has too. In general I guess, we would just need to communicate better. And both of us not take things so personally when it comes to minute issues. IE: figure out a system where we stop digging ourselves deeper into a position on a debate or moral we each have without taking it personally. Our sexual relationship was absolutely incredible. We both loved and cared for each other and did anything possible to help the other person and accomidate... except for issues concerning each of our pride. We both do not like to lose argumnets without a fight. I don't know fi that answers your question. Do you have any other ideas to throw out there? I'm very tired. What we don't need to work on.. is an intellectual connection we have with each other.. IE sense of humour, and meaningfull emotional connection. Recently she even told me she still feels that with me.
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    1.I want her back under new conditions though. Ive changed alot. I hope she has too 2. I can handle her coming back alot easier. I don't hang on her words. I can respond within a couple days, not instantly like I used to and not feel bad after I have replied to her text messages etc. I have to protect my heart still. But its' tough when shes' come on fairly storng, remenissing etc.
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    Day 1 of NC> My ex contats me and gets scared.... she cannot decide between me and her bf I think................................... YAYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!! TIME TO START CHAIN SMOKING AGAIN.
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    yeah this is just pathetic.. she could mean.. friend.. or this could mean.. something else. I told her i despise cheaters and cheating at our coffee. so she could be using this to get back close to me... so shes trying to make me think shes not cheating.
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    Ok well she just texted "whats new friend?" what the hell.. i want to die
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    That was along time ago.. before she started to basically apologize.. and yes I know... but its tougher than it seems. She is very immatuire... and she always has made bad decisions in her life... she met me.. we had our dissagreemnts but she dumped me and that was a problem... she made a mistake. Heyt.. if shes learning that.. cool. IM trying my hardest to be steadfast here.
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    I have.. and I have thought of that. I'm as frusterated as you say I am....................... she "appears offline" on msn and comes online. She knows I Hav einterest from other girls though. It's whenever she feels she will lose me, she contacts me. She got all jealous when i mentioned my ex ex wanted to get back together with me. \ I have gone times where i have not responded.. and a few days later she just said "ignoring me on perpose?" and i just asid that i was busy and its hard to talk to her sometimes.
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    Note: I went NC, and she keeps coming back We've had 14 and 16 dayts of NC, and she is initiating them. She never wanted to tell me about her bf.. but i squeezed it out of her aboyt a month ago.
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    Well to be fair, she is the one initiating probably 90 percent of the contact between us both. And on the contrary.. I think she's still having a rough time getting over me. She's only now admitting she misses me. She was steadfast that she made the right decision over a month ago. Now shes' coming back , texting, reminissing, calling me even.
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    That's what I fear. She doesn't talk about him at all, etc. She said hes an ex alchoholic, and drank a 2/6 and came over to her house. THis was after I went for coffee with her. She told me this 3 days after she invited me to coffee, which we went out for, and she asked for a hug. And previous to that, she flirted with me, and said things like " imiss talking to you" as well as "we really do know each other dont we" and she reminissed etc. I am afriad i am only emotional support. I may have to confront her about this beucase I did get angry at her about that kind of stuff a couple weeks after the break up when she called me to cry and say I was the only one to understand. I told her she couldnt do this.. she stopped... and now 3 months after the split.. shes trying to get seemingly closer to me...
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    So my ex texted back this morning. Went back and froth. She finally replied about my roomat egetting married. I replied back again with "yeah il have to find a new roomate or place.. and im playin some ice hockey again" and she hasnt replied again. I asked her how she was since we last talked.. and she just was vague again "about the same as I was before" This was when we bf drank heavily etc.. ... i duno what to do. ... back into NC I go.
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    Well my ex finally responded again from last night saying "my christmas was lovely,, and things are about the same since we last talked" very vague... beucase the last times we talked her bf came over drunk and she was balling for an hour..... shes being very distant again. Time to back off and leave her alone again. She doesnt want to talk about any of that stuff. Advice?
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    Well I texted the ex a happy merry christmas. She recriprocated 5 hours later., I sent one back asking how she was. She hasnt responded. I duno if it was a right thing to do. but she texted and wanted to talk to me lately and now has gone distant again... i duno... maybe she is weighing her options with the guy and me now.. all I can do is wait.
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    Day 4.... still has not contacted me on christmas Who will be the first to break?
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    Day 3...... wondering if she will contact. Still has not since I responded to her text telling her my roomate was getting married.
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    Day 2.... she hasnt texted back, to me saying my roomate is getting engaged. I don't know why. But I miss her and I hope to hear from her soon, because I think im getting my hopes up too much sometimes..ughhh
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    Well day 1 again....... She texted me last morning a few times. She mentioned she had "alot of free time" took the day of work for some reason. Wrapped gifts, seeing her dad , cleaning etc. And I replied about the news of my roomate getting married. She never responded to that. About that: We had always talked about living together, she wanted to live wiht me pretty bad at one point. Now she's living with this guy, that i'm not sure how serious it is. But she finally has her kitty and a new place she can live "half the time" i guess. So now il be looking for a new roomate and or place soon. What will she do?
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    My ex just texted me. She said she has the day off and "free time" "wrapping gifts, seeing my dad and thats about it" Is this a hint?
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