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well m y birthday was saturday so on friday morning i got up she had sent me an email saying she thought she could be the first to wish me happybirthday and hope she didnt wake me. Now she was a day early so alter on friday she realized she messed up and sendt me som more text explaining i did respond back in a fun way , so i get up sat urday morning and she had sent me another happy birthday and then later on in the day she sent me one more being real friendly. I was flattered she was thinking of me so much on jsut my birthday. And saturday nigh she didnt think i was on yahoo and she was typing message i said hi and we talked about ten minutes she was very friendly, saying things that made ya think why? but im not expecting anything i told myself she just was being nice and i do appeciate it but im sure i wont hear from her for along time so anyway the no contact did help me get ovber this and it did bother me some made me think more about her but im doing great just dont talk to them and focus on someone else or other things and it gets better. Still dont know why they contact you after 2 months of really no contact i guess the birthday triggers thier brain to say something lol.

ok i have been giving my girlfriend all the space she needs it has been a month so just how long do you give them ? are the one they want space from suppose to just set around for months and hear nothing from them at all?

i know im a big goof well im done i kinda feel like she just slapped me in the face by saying she would talk to me later and saying she had been thinking about me and then ignore me taht is ok . Im sure she ahs been thinking about me thinking how she can ignore me and move on i really think she has someone new oh well wish him luck send me the duck tape

ok so i broke no contact and here is the update my sistuation was a little different me and my ex now i guess wasnt ahving any trouble everything was good but she was having doubts or said she was confussed about her feelings about moving here she lives in another state and uprooting her life and hse was getting cold feet about me having kids so she wanted to take a step back and think she said so she just stopped calling me for 11 days we did no contact so i was setting her in limbo, so i text her just a hi how are you text so about three hours passed and no anwser so i texted her back and said "ok guess your not talking to me i can take a hint. didnt think you would ever do that to me and i didnt kow i did anything to deserve that but i wont bother you any more" so about 30 minutes she texted this " wait i was at work and then and got a massage im not ignoring you i have been thinking about you (what ever that means) i will talk to you later sorry it took so long to respond" it wass about three hours before i got that text i was in church so she sent another text asking if i got the first text i said i did and i havent heard anything since so i cant figure it out. i guss i screwed up but it did make me feel better .

ok i will but what kind of time frame how long am i suppose to wiat ? I just sit here wondering which day it will be when she sayes it is finally over. What i dont understand is if you love someone and say you want to be with them and there is a situation where you are worried about a issue such as being with someoen who ahs children how do you not at least try and see if it will work instead of being a coward and walking away?

Ok dave i did text her yesterday i want to just type word for word what i said and what she said and maybe this will help. Ok hear it is: ME: Hi - - - - - I wanted to tell you that the other day when i said i wanted to break up i did it out of frustration cause i was nt going to get to see you this weekend( she was planning on coming her ideal then she didnt cause she couldnt find someone to keep her dogs which i believe but she then said she thought she mayeb had been rushing her feelings) Im not breaking up with you cuase that is the last thing in the world i want, so if that is what you want then u will have to do the breaking up. Cause i cant break up with a woman i m in love with. By the way i miss you. HER: Hey ------ I went on a bike ride and i am running some errands sorry it took so long to respond. I dont really know what to say other than i do think i want some time to figure out my feelings becasue i do have doubts so its not fair to you if im unsure. ME: Are you doubting that you love me have you stopped loving me are you not attracted to me anymore what is it? HER: No I am attracted to u I am having doubts about our future not being ready to start a family i truly care about you and the kids but i feel like they deserve someone who is ready for that im afraid i will fail. Im just being honest these are things i think of. I know if we are supose to be we will. ME sent her one telling her i would give her all the time she needed as long as she was working on ideals to adjust like she said she was in a email last week. she didnt anwser that one . I did send her another one basically telling her how does she know she isnt ready when she hasnt tryed it. Just a couple weeks ago while visting she wanted to look at hosues or condos next to me . Just a couple weeks she was sending cards to me and my kids telling me how much she missed us and how she couldnt stand being away from me. Telling me in text she loved me and missed me. I cant understnd all this. I just would like to know how she will ever get an anwser if she doesnt spend time with us. I dont know what she is thinking but what should i do just leave her alone no contact . I just cant see just a few days ago she wanted to come see me saying she missed me now i dont know . I asked her if she wanted to breakup and she wont ever say the day we talked and i said i wanted to break up she said she wasnt sure that is what she wanted and she couldnt believe this is it so dave what do you think i should do and what is she doing?

ok i have been reading this thread about avoiding certain doom but here is my situation see what ya think. i ahve been dating this lady for 7 months everything was great she lives 5 hours away and she knew she would nhave to move here so the past month she has been confused she said something dont feel right she is having doubts that she is ready to have an instant family i have two kids and she is struggling with uprooting her life and moving here she lives in a big city and i live in a small rural town so she said she needed to take a step back and think so she has been doing this for two weeks she text me this week saying she missed me and was thinking of me she sayes she loves me so when we talked yesterday i just said i was going to make it easier and get out of her life i said it out of frustration dont want to break up and i am willing to give her time as long as she is working on ways to adjust and us work but i cant set here not knowing if any day she may call and say it is over i feel like i want to call her and tell her but im not sure if i need to leave her be and let her think what should i do in this situation.