Hi!
Been lurking on this forum for the last 7 weeks. My partner of 5 years decided that our relationship needed to end. I was very upset but let her go, even managed to make it mostly lighthearted and then went immediately into NC. She kept saying as she was leaving "If you love somebody let them go, if it's meant to be then they will come back to you!". I guess I hung onto this as a minor sign of hope but have since come to realise that this probably eased her conscience!
This forum has been so helpful. Cannot thank the likes of SuperDave and Heloladies 21 etc enough!!
I was asked to "be a friend" on our last meeting but realised that it was "lovers or nothing". I stated this clearly and also asked for NC. There has been nothing so far. I lost many friends through this, they were of the mutual-type (most better known to her). I sacrificed them so that I would have no knowledge that might hurt me whilst I was trying to heal. I also wanted her to have all their benefits as she went NC with me. I got the general feeling from her that I was being "replaced" (although I have no real evidence for this - just gut instinct based on a previous "indiscretion" on her behalf).
Anyway last night was just settling in to bed (typical!) when I received a text from a friend (definitely more her ally than mine, and her friend first!) saying "Hi ya B i know u and S r not 2gether but cud we still b friends as we really liked your company. you and your new partner will always b welcome please take up our offer lots of love"
It's knocked me for six! Firstly because I've had NC for so long, was starting to heal. Secondly, I DO NOT have a new partner and am far from that thought process at present. It's taking all I have just to love myself at the mo. Is this a "fishing text"? Should I respond and set the record straight?
Advice really appreciated. It seems like all my hard work over the last 7 weeks is about to be undone,
Tintinout