GoatBoy

Thanks for the wishes Syrix and Bestrongbehappy. The less conflict the better now, my wife is already upset with our eldest son because he keeps telling her he wants to come and live by me. I'm sure that everything will work out in the end though. Thanks again

Thanks very much for the responses. I think you are right, I have been readying myself for this for a long time. With regards to the kids, I will always be the best dad I can for them. I think the only reason I stayed this long was because I didnt want them to hurt, I just realised I'm hurting myself and have to do something about it. Thanks again

Hi everyone. I have recently started the whole process of getting a divorce after being unhappy for the past year or two. I think the scary thing is though that I don't feel bad about it. Maybe I am numb, or maybe i just know this is the right thing to do. We have two sons together and the only people i am worried about hurting by doing this is them. My reasons for divorce may seem a bit petty, but I am tired of having to take out loans to pay back her debt, I am tired of her accusing me constantly of having an affair, I am tired of not being able to rest for 5 minutes after getting home after 2 hours in traffic because she expects me to instantly be in the mood for cleaning or cooking or telling her about my day, I am tired of being ignored when I try to talk about our problems, I am tired of always being made out as the bad guy and the one who caused all these problems in the first place. I have had my fair share of problems but at least I can admit to them. As I read once, a divorce doesnt mean a couple doesnt understand eachother, but maybe that for the first time they have at last begun to. I am not going to ask how I should feel because whatever anyone says isnt going to change that, what I am going to ask is why DONT I feel? Is it because I know its right or because I am numbing myself to any feelings.