Danikka

This whole conversation has been like deja vu. I had the exact same situation at about the same age as you are. It is really hard to understand where he is coming from because he is a parent and you are not. I didn't understand why my ex let the child and ex come between us all the time because I didn't get the unconditional love one has for their children. As much as all this is eating at you try to be happy that you have someone who you can say is a great loving father and not some dead beat Dad. One day you may have children that he is willing to fight for. Would I have understood this back then? Not for a minute . I wanted it to be all about me and "our " love. Always remember he loves you differently and that's OK. Don't let his ex break you!!! Try to be understanding but let him know how you feel without attacking him, do you know what I mean? I still have problems with how to express my feelings.

I am still friends with many of my ex's. If you don't completely screw each other over eventually it seems only right that someone you cared deeply for should be able to be your friend, although some new bf's /gf's won't like it. The friendship doesn't usually come right away though.