Btaz

Usually your gut feeling is right. I have done so recently and found out about lies . Then tried to continue the relationship but with less trust than before.Now since then i have found out more several times etc... Then put it to the test and confronted him with info which he thought i could not know about . He lied to my face without a flinch even when i told him that i had proof. Why... cause he thought i was bluffing. End of story i can't spend time with someone about who i have to doubt his words ... it eats away at you and no matter how it hurts ... it is time to move on.

Hi, Sensitive issue, however lots of people make mistakes in their life and especially when young. Sometimes we would like to make our mistakes disappear as we feel ashamed of them, victim or user alike. Your boyfriend sound genuinely embarrassed by what happened and had probably managed to put it( by not thinking about it anymore) behind him as he could not undo it. I think if you keep saying the things you do it will become a big issue and irreparable damage will be done to your relationship. You have the choice of which way to go. I truly believe that youngster can be very flirty( i have a 14 yr old daughter ) and give the impression of being older and sometimes get themselves into situations because of it. However a 19 year old boy or young man is not much more mature if at all and mistakes happen in the heat of the moment. He did not rape her and the age difference is no different than you two have now so ... Imagine you had met him at 14 and fallen in love and he had fallen for you ... you would now still be together and would you be as disgusted by the whole idea when it would have been natural to you ( as you lived it) ? Think very carefully about why you feel so strongly about this ... maybe u compare the 14 yr old with some very innocent child you once knew but who probably was nothing like the girl he saw.Or maybe something else is causing you to react so seriously... iIwish you all the best but don't lose a good relationship without very carefull consideration. The fact that he told you about the neighbour flirting with him (without knowing you had heard it ) sound like he is very honest . Take care Btaz ( Linda)