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annie24, Just thought I'd confirm that a phone call does not lead to sex. Like the quote said he called by on his way home. It does not say that he called on his way home. You seem to have misunderstood/misread that part of the post.

So my ex and I had sex again. He had called by on his way home from work as I live close by, and one thing led to another. Anyway when he was in the bathroom I checked his phone. You don't need to tell me that this is invading his personal space - I know that. I never checked his phone through the relationship so i have no idea why I am acting this way now? And I feel like I behaving in a way that is against everything I have ever believed in. So anyway I saw messages from a girl. Just chatting being flirty etc but it is clear from the messages that they like eachother and he is treating her much nicer than he is treating me. I also found a messgae he had sent to his friend from work the other day making plans for a night out and also it said 'yeah, I sha**ed her' among other things. This was in reference to me as he had been to my place the night before. He obviously enjoys discussing our 'situation' with friends, he seems proud of himself. When I confronted him about the fact that he was portaying the situation in this way he said 'yeah, and what? Im not lying am I, that's what it is'. I can't believe he's treating me like this, he's so cruel and Im so STUPID for letting this happen. I feel like the biggest idiot for letting him treat me this way. Im so angry at myself (and him) that I can't put it into words.

I am going through the same thing. I have slept with my ex several times since he ended the relationship. I usually feel down or angry afterwards because he still does not want me back. What makes it worse is that he was SO nice to me throughout the realtionship and even after he ended the realtionship he still seemed very nice towards me and considerate towards my feelings. But he has changed - he doesn't care that I am upset he is only interested in sex and he is not afraid to be upfront - he is like a different person. I am still sleeping with my ex, but I would advise you STAY AWAY from yours if you have the will power to do so.

I went out for my friends birthday lastnite and ended up going back to my place with my ex boyfriend and having sex. We have had sex numerous times since he broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. Why does the sex seem better since we broke up?! Sex used to be a little dull at times but since the break up it is far from dull. Only this morning I am alone again. I love him so much but he does not want to get back together. I accept this decision but continue to make the same mistake. I do not expect any sympathy - I knew what I was letting myself in for when I had sex with him. I knew he did not want to revive the relationship, he just wanted sex. That is clear from his texts today. The thing is each time we've slept together since he broke up with me I have been fully aware of the consequences (ie. feeling lonely and disappointed afterwards) but the sex is so good that it's hard not to repeat my mistakes. Just thought I'd get that off my chest. Has anyone had similar experience?

An ex of mine asked me for a break a few years ago. What he really meant was a break up, he just hadnt realised it fully at that time. Looking back I sincerely wish I had ended the relationship when he asked for a break. If somebody is unsure of their feelings for you then this will more than likely end in a break up. In my opinion going on a break is unfair because it leaves the person in your shoes waiting around for the relationship to resume, when the chances of this happening are small. If he had told you he was very much in love with you and 100% sure he wanted to be with you, but just needed time to concentrate on his work - then you could be sure the relationship will work. But this is not what he said and I think he might be calling a break because he thinks he wants the relationship to end but is not 100% sure. My advice - move on and let the healing begin rather than wait and prolong your pain. link removed

if he starts seeing someone else then of course I would be upset by it whether we were still sleeping together or not. but since we are no longer together as a couple and are just sleeping together occasionally then there is not much i can do about that.

If he is not going to come back to me then I would rather be sleeping with him than totally uninvolved with him. Is this a bad idea?

My ex broke up with me about three weeks ago but we have slept together a few times since we split up. do you think he is just using me for sex or do you think we'll get back together? He does seem very distant. It is usually me who initiates the sex because I love him, and of course because I am attracted to him. But I do want to get back together but he says he doesn't want to.