cant-stop-loving-her

actually, i dont want to be with her anymore.. ther's no point.. in like 8 months - next june, we are gonna leave schol and go off to unis at the opposite ends of the world.. and i have no intention of getting together with her anymore.. I just cant stand this avoiding each other at school everyday.. i'm looking for a way to tell her that she can relax and there's no need to be scared.. if i dont tell her - a time will cum when she will get tired of this everyday thing and lose it or sumthing.. after i've told her, even if we dont talk, at least there wont be these weird moments at least twice everyday where i bump into her and i just walk the other way pretending i didnt see her - or the other way round.. i had a friend last year who could talk to her but she left for uni and now all the people left are in no position to understand and deal with this the way it should be... so any ideas on how i can let her know that i am not a "freako" considering she is doing her best to avoid me..lol..

You can read my previous thread here: I was thinking bout posting these quotes in the common room.. noone will know its me but she'll sooner r later get the idea that its me.. I rally have to go.. Just plz tell me if I should take one or two out or if I can add another one. Or if im going mad..lol.. It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone -- but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. It takes a strong person to say sorry, And an even stronger person to forgive. You forgive me for liking you too much, And I'll forgive you for not liking me enough. You forgive me for missing you so, And I'll forgive you for being so cold. You forgive me for the loud racing of my heart, And I'll forgive you for not hearing it. You forgive me for finding you so attractive, And I'll forgive you for not noticing. You forgive me for wanting to be with you, And I'll forgive you for avoiding me. You forgive me for being so pathetic, And I'll forgive you for taking advantage of it. You forgive me for not being able to let go, And I'll forgive you for never having latched on. You forgive me for having hopes and dreams, And I'll forgive you for crushing them. Forgiveness brings inner peace. Do we have a deal? Cuz I sure can't go on like this.. When you forgive, you in no way change the past- But you sure do change the future.

I know i have to wait for her to statrt a conversation but i am not exactly helping her do it by sitting around.. Like i said in my last post, she tried to talk yesterday after school but i couldnt help what happenned.. And "both aiming for the same basket" makes sense but she's taking too long.. but i am going to wait and not try to start a conversation myself though i will do my best to giv her good time and place.. I 've sort of let go of her over the summer but obviously it'll take time to fully get over it.. Anywayz, thanx guys for all the help

i am sooo confused.. in skool in front of everyone she ignores me and then after skool 2day i heard her telling her friend to meeet her outside the gates and she'll go alone there.. and the she tried to talk to me but it was the worst of times.. my bro came and i had to hide from her cuz its complicated but i CANNOT in any way let my bro see me talking to her... and NOW, she probably thinkss i dont want to talk to her... oh god, y that time.. anyway tomorrow hopeful;l;y, i will get sum courage to sayy sumting.. cuz i'm definate tht she told her friend to let her go alone and meet her later... and then she followed me outside but exactly at the time my bro came.. sh*t g2g..

my bad.. i didnt say it clearly.. i meant tht i'll try to talk to her when she isnt surrounded by tons of people cuz its hard to find her by herself.. but yeah.. anyway, i know she doesnt care and don want her now.... i am trying to move on but its hard to cum everyday to skool and go to classes with her or c her every freakin day soo close and yet not being able to talk.. knowing she is avoiding me.. I could ignore her as well but any1 who has been in this situation knows how hard it is to act like nothing happenned.. dunno whatt to do..

I don’t get it.. I am trying to say a hi or sumthing but she is sooo avoiding eye contact… I’d be happier with NC if it weren’t for running into her a couple of times EVERY DAY!! She's just acting like i am not there.. I dont know how long i can go on like this.. I just wanna let her know we can be like b4 again - or anything.. i dunno - should i try to find her alone an then talk or just leave it - though that is really hard to do..

Ok, so i tried that, u know get a smile accross.. but now she is kinda ignnoring me .... i mean, whenever i look at her she is always looking the other way.. We even have a class together and it is getting awkward.. I keep getting the feeling that she thinks I'm like a stalker or sumthin and am tryin to "steal" her- if thats the right word.. I dont really care anymore bout getting together but like honey pumpkin said, i just wannt her to be relaxed and not tryin to keep a distance..... And i know that she would also want things to be friendly again.. its just that i have to make the first move.. And i wont mention the past or anything.. but any tips on how to get her to say sumthing.. or how I can start a conversation.. cuz we only have one class together a week and break times we're in the same place but she's always with her friends and its impossible to ask her to come for a talk with me or sumthin...

Yes, I know i've told her and freaked her out.. I had no idea what the hell i was doing at the time.. Anyway, now that she's tryin to be nice or whatever... what do i say then?? "Hi, I'm over u, Bye"" HAHA I really neeed to know as in what to say to her if she tries to talk to me.. And 2day after school, i wasnt looking and when i turned around, saw her turn quickly in the other direction.. she was first walking towards me.. i'm tryin to say she is definitely truyin to say sumthin.. So, how do i respond.. I dont want to turn her away completely but still tell her that we dont have to be enemies (ie. ignoring each other and stuff..) thanx.. lol..

I posted a few months ago bout this girl and You can read here Well i dunno if she is still going out with him anymore but she did try to talk to me last week (on the first day of school) but i wasnt expecting it and sortof didnt smile back... What should I say to her cuz I still really like her and dont know how to tell her that.. Thanx...

hey, u should read my thread .. its "urgent help needed" in the dating and shy people section. I got rejected by a girl bout 3 weeks ago and believe me, she still is the most perfect girl i have ever seen - but of course thats to me only.. i still love her like i did b4 and although i've been told by loads of people to get over it, i just cant.. so all u can do is rreally try to heal as fast as u can and then move on.. and LEARN FROM UR MISTAKES.. believe me, there are so many things i can see now that i did wrong then.. * * * * g2g

Actually if you have never been in a situation where you can joke and tease a girl in a fun way, it is hard to get into it.. I learnt that a few weeks ago cuz i was really shy around girls and from an experience i found out when you dont think a lot about what to say when u meet them, it makes it WAYYY easier than u spending days trying to make up a perfect conversation bcz reality just isnt the same to our imaginations.... so start off by jokes and then try to get into joking about them.. but it's hard in the beginning cuz u may be tginking while teasing them that she might take it seriously ..so until you're both comfortable with it it will feel weird... jus a little thought, hope it helps..

letting it go is not as easy as as it sounds and well i wont give her anything but still, i may see her in between one of the exams.. and in the l;ast week she was ignoring me sooo obviously.. and i wanna let her know b4 she leaves for the summer holidays that we can still be friends or anything but i cant stand her not meeting my eyes... so any advice on what to say to her if i see her again.... thanx

I know that this sounds stupid but the thing is i wont see her for 3 months after this wednesday and i was thinking that i should sumhow tell her that i'm not mad at her or anything and i havent taken this offensively.. sumthing like that.. but i dont know if i should do it or not and how?? in what way..? Also, should i give her a gift like a necklace or sumthing when i tell her that... i really wanna give her sumthing... and i'll tell her that its really nothing.. just a goodbye thing... hope u guys can help cuz i dont really know what to do.. and time is really short...

Actually Diggity, after i read ur guide for successfull dating I realized that since she was the first girl i asked out and she told me in a "nice way" to back off - like u said. i took the hint... lol.., i learnt my lesson to not hurry into telling her how much i loved her and not trying to be casual first.. so next time, i'll just ask the girl out and not be too serious as i was in those letters. When i think bout what i said in them, i guess she probably took me for a freak cuz they were TOOO serious and wacky..

the problem now is that although a part of me is trying to leave her behind, every morning when i wake up, my chest literally hurts so much that its hard to get up.. i really dunno what to do.. and with things like this u tend to really think bout it all again and again. Well.. the thing is I was always nervous talking to girls ESPECIALLY her, but on Monday when she told me that “nothing would be a good idea between us”, I was actually quite casual and not nervous at all.. I started the conversation by saying “hey, how r u” type of stuff and she even said oh i’m fine.. but then she’s like, “listen, I don’t think that anything would be a good idea now…” and honestly, that shocked me and all I said was “fine” and I left… I probably shouldve said sumthin else… And now, its hurts the most cuz the first time that I could actually talk to her without being nervous or anything, its all over…

i dont love her just cuz of her looks... cuz over the past 2 years i've leant a lot about her and evrything is exactly what i've always wanted in a girl.. it's really hard to let go... anyway, although i didnt think of it, chances arent high of her seeing this pic but i'll remove it in a couple of days..

i dunno how to explain how i feel right now, but those who have been rejected can probably relate to this.. yesterday, she told me that we just cant be together and i loved with everything that i have and i still do.. i know i'm supposed to back off and move on but everytime i think bout letting her go, i start crying like hell.. and from now on in school, i know that i wont be able to look at her without a tear cuming out. she is just the most perfect girl i've ever seen.. and i'm not just saying it.. every single guy in this school must have a thing for her at sum point.. i know i'm a guy and i'm supposed to be strong but i cant talk bout it to any of my friends cuz only one real close friend knows that i love her and she's a girl so she wont really understand.. cuz in reality i gave up classes, afte-school time and break times to be closer to her and i still cant believe how she could just end it all so quick... now i'm trying to push her out of my head for 3 weeks cuz i've got A level exams in less than 2 weeks.. so far, i'm very close to failing, seriously cuz at home, all i can do is think of her... i dont believe in having on and off relationships.. for me, she was my first and true love and i guess there will never be another girl in my life... all i can hope and pray for this summer is that she will keep my number or email and when her current bf dumps her (i know he will - he's that type of guy), she might think bout me and decide to say sumthing... anyway thanx to all

ok... here goes... I just talked to her an hour ago and she said that nothing is a good idea betweemn us.. oooohhhhh!!! I wanna kill her... not really i still love her but i cant understand how she took away all i had in mind for two years in one second... thanx for ur replies guys but still, i dont think i will ever forget her in my life.. and now i've got a problem cuz we've got PE lessons together and next year we have to be in same classs... * * * *. life suxx

help...PLZZ I met this girl 2 years ago in school and in a couple of months i was madly in love with her.. but she already had a bf and at the end of that year she dumped him and now she's with another guy.. the seem serious to me but i cant be sure... in bout 2 months, he'll be going away for uni anbut she'll still be here for another year and i'm stayin as well.. In reality, i'm not really shy but 2 weeks ago a gave her letter and for the first time, i told her that i love her A LOT.. a week ago i gave another letter and told her how i loved her so much.. she's been ignoring me since then.. and i dont know what to do cuz schools out in a few weeks and i wont see her again for 3 months.. and in the second letter i gave her my number and email.. butr she hasnt replied to either.. what do i do... help soon. PLEAASE... thanxxx