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Personally speaking, any time I've started to have a proper conversation about music/the band at a gig, I end up getting hit on. And I just can't be bothered with it any more. It's impossible to have the conversation whilst waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Nothing to do with the subject matter at all...

It will to some, and it won't to some. You'll just have to either a) vet out the ones who won't like it, or b) not show it to them.

You should probably go and check out the fan art girls are drawing before you decide that women are all freaked out by risque art though.

For me the rain just doesn't care about abstract ideas like always when she has solid things to care about.

I love your hair.

Damn Cynder, to read all that, to see how much you work for what you want, it's impressive and inspiring. As they say where I'm from, you're well hard

Just curious. I know that cities tend to have more opportunity for alt people to get together and form community, and was just wondering where you were based.

Cynder, do you live in a city or a town?

Yeah, but are you enjoying it?

I want to read A Christmas Carol before x-mas, but I'm still in the middle of World War Z. (The Z is for Zombies.) It's ok, not amazing, but I can't stop reading it. So...

I think the my favourite book this year was One Bullet Away by Nate Fick. It's about his time in the Marines (he was part of the Iraq Invasion) and it's actually incredibly readable. (I tried Junior Officers Reading Club on the back of it, and the authors style in it had me wanting something bad to happen to him. Which I don't think is something you really want from your audience.)

Just a note - this thread is 3 years old.

Tonight I picked up and put down Kill Clock by Allan Guthrie. Not totally unreadable but reads more like a synopsis for a novel than a novel.

Then I started Killer in the Rain. Got to love some Chandler.

Cam, I'm with you.

(If it doesn't ignite under sunlight,

it's not a bloody vampire.)

Beat Happening

Ohh yeah. I've just gone and got totally addicted to these guys.

Beat Happening

Ohh yeah. I've just gone and got totally addicted to these guys.

Such a good poem, it's the Stoic ideal.

And confuzzled - it was written in the 1890s. Victorian men (and women) didn't cry in public. The stiff upper lip you know.

Honestly, I don't think she is going to agree to be fwb.

She is most likely going to see it as an attempt to "keep" her, and make things awkward between you.

To be fair, you went looking to catch her in the lie.

Some people would just rather give an excuse as to why they didn't ring immediately then just not say anything. She obviously felt that it was important that you have some reason as to why she didn't ring immediately.

Don't do anything.

It's only been a short while, of course you're going through withdrawal. But she's engaged. And whether she's in love with him or not, she's going to marry him.

The religion issue must have been pretty big for you to have split up over, even if you could have her back, that's not going to go away.

Why don't you make plans?

If you say no to something, then she should make other plans. Or you should have an alternative activity.

Do you mean that she makes alt plans for you, or without you?

You're checking her phone logs?

Dump her. You don't trust her, and if you don't trust her (especially over little things) there's no future for the relationship except mistrust and anger.

All the men I've dated have loved my curves. And skiny with big boobs, I am not!

Whats the culture that they are part of like? Personally, if a man ever told me to lose weight, I would and it would probably be 160lbs of uselessness. However, if her family is expecting her to marry him, if she has a problem or thinks he might not be such a good partner, what can she do about it?

Without and evidence of other misdeeds, I'd likely chalk it up to being tactless but would keep an eye out for any other qualities that hinted at a controlling personality.

He can change. He just won't. The whole "I'll change" deal is part of a ploy to make you give him a second chance. And it'll be good for a while, but the next time he goes off, it will be worse.

This time he hit a wall. Next time it will be you.

In terms of commitments this huge, you should only move as fast as the slowest person.

Why is it so imperative to him that you set a date? Can't he just enjoy being engaged? I don't get the feeling that he totally gets all the responsibilities and commitment that comes with a marriage.

Odd question, but is it the marriage he wants, or the wedding?

he was in hospital for a week...almost died and she was there all the time even though they broke up on the day that accident happened...it had nothing to do with the music... she never liked it and now she tries to use his weakness

 

it is just so stupid and pisses me off...fortunately it looks like he didnt take her request seriously

 

That was nice of her. She didn't have to do that. She obviously will support him when he needs it.

 

Is it possible that him almost dying gave her a reality check and she just doesn't want him to waste his life over something that may never happen?

 

(not that I agree with it, but that's my take)

So you want to be her bf and date other people...

How did you get from wanting to be more serious to that?

If the dentist is going to be anaesthetising you, I'd advise against it.

Or ring the surgery and ask someone there.