miss_confused

I did the exact same thing with my ex bf. I called him and broke down and cried and started talking about how it was me that needed to change not him. After losing the little dignity I had left, I realized that * * * * him, it was his fault to. If you do go out for dinner with your ex you should act like u miss him but at the same time act like u can get on in life without him. Guys want to see that u don't need them all the time and that you can be independent without him. good luck !

That advice is really great, the problem is what happens if you were supposed to end up with that person in the end of things? "people come into you life for a reason,season or all of time" Is there a reason we keep coming back to eachother, are new relationships are not working out is it because we need eachother in the end of things? Be4 we became bf and gf we had been trying to date for several years but one was always with someone else ....I just think that sometimes you are supposed to be with that someone and maybe that is why u both end up on the couch in the middle of the day when u least expect it? What do you guys think ? xoxo confused p.s ladies going thru a tough breakup should invest in the book" it is called a breakup because it is broken" Great book it really puts things in prespective xox

I need some male input on this question. MY ex bf and I were dating for about a year when we decided it was time to say our goodbyes, that was in the beginning of november 2005. After going out with him for so long I really wanted to make it work as friends, however I was not that lucky. In the beginning my ex didn't even want to talk to me, I wasn't asking for him back, I wasn't asking us to try again all I wanted was to be able to see each other and not feel weird around one another. Shortly after we started hanging out again and we also began to have sex again. I know sex with the ex is a HUGE NO NO, but what can you do. We kept this going for 2 months or so durring this time we both thought we would get back together, however I told him him needed to make a decision and well he could not come through so I decided it would be easier for us both to move on if we ended all communication. We slowly began to see other people, I am not going to lie it hurt a lot knowing my ex had a new girl in my life and I am sure he felt the same. A month or so later we bagn talking again and he always wanted to know about my new relationship and he would always tell me how the new girl he was with did not mean anything to him. We both ended up breaking up with our new relationships. The other night he called me for the first time in several weeks and we ended up having an argument and I hung up on him. Shortly after he ended up at my house making sure I was ok and wanting to say sorry. After 3 months of no sexual contact we ended up kissing on my couch and hugging like old time, he is coming over tomorrow. I could not be more confused as to what this boy wants? I mean how can someone say it is over and then show up at your house and want to kiss you? Do actions speak louder then words? Is it really over ? Sorry I am sure my spelling is off haha bare with me people THANK YOU SOOO MUCH XOX confused