istherehope

About 6 months ago, I fell in love with a girl. The first month or so was great, but we both ended up losing our jobs. We went through many months of rough times, due to finances and not being able to go out as much. My love for her during those times lessened, and even though I still love her I don't feel like I'm in love anymore. Is it possible to get that "in love" feeling again? Or once its gone, it means that it wasn't the right person?

I've had girlfriends who have gone away on vacation with their friends for a whole week. During that time, I got to do things that I didn't have a chance to do, but also realized how much I did or didn't miss the person. If she doesn't miss you or if you don't miss her after a week, its a good indication of your feelings. I think time off, is a good thing.

About a week ago, my girlfriend and I broke up. I allowed the breakup to happen, so I guess its my fault. We haven't made contact since it's happened. I need some time to figure out what I want out of life, who I am and whether I really made a bad descision breaking up. Question: How long do I have before I can call her to get her back? I don't want to call her out of the blue 3 weeks from now and say I'm ready to get back together. Should I wait until I have fully figured my thoughts out, or can I call and make contact and let her know I need some time? I don't want to give her false hope, but I also don't want to wait too long before its too late.