snugglemufin

Thankyou for your comments. No, I believe her sincerity 100%, in fact, she was very scared at 1st when she first told her father about me. She IS financially secure because she has a full time job and she isn't one of these girls who is saying "I love you" just to get a visa or access to the UK. She told me she was so confused just now, she wasn't sure how exaclty she felt - any "greencard" hunter would NOT be so honest. When I saw her on the dating sight, I did a "philippines" search rather than her profile stating that she was looking for a UK guy. Also, as soon as we got closer, she ERASED her dating site profile cos she felt so confident in the relationship. ie, no need to find a "supply" of online men to choose from.

The thing is, she said only last week that she wanted to see me in Febrary so on the strenght of her request, I got tickets already (which she knows about). I havn't heard from her now for 24 hours and not sure what I should do. Should I e-mail her to re-assure her (she wont get it till Wednesday at work now) or text her to say that I'm still thinking of her. I fee awful. I hate waiting like this. I'm so worried things will end cos in the past the "i need some time" has always led to a break up. I can't focus on my work, I can't even look at her photos anymore cos it hurts too much to think I may loose her. If I tell her that I feel like this she will just feel the more guilty. Ohh God help me please

Hello If I loved her and believed there was a future, I would stay in contact. If I felt there was no future (from my own feelings or hers) then I wouldn't stay in contact !

Hello. Please can you help me. I have been in a long distance relationship with a beautiful girl from the Philippines since June. We met on a dating sight, exchanged e-mail addresses, cellphone numbers and have bult a strong bond of trust - everything felt so beautiful. Her parents even gave our relationship their blessing, even her father who has dissaproved of a few of her previous boyfriends. We plan to meet for the 1st time this February and every body is so excited. So, what is the problem ? Well, last week (January 12th) I noteced that something wasn't "right" and I sensed she was unhappy with something. I asked her over the proceding days if she was ok, but she just said "yeah, everything is fine". Still sensing some problem I sent her an email, and on Monday morning, she confessed to me what was wrong. She was very sorry for not being honest with me at 1st, but told me she was feeling confused becasue she under so much pressure at work and has one or two family issues. She said she wasn't sure how she felt any more and in particualar she was scared that she would hurt me and didn't want ever to do that. I asked her how she felt when she looked at my photos and she said she felt happy, warm and wanted to hug and hold me. She said she wanted some time to gather her thoughts, and of course, I said that would be ok. I was calm with her, patient with her and told her I understood how she was feeling. This made her feel happier cos she was scared I'd get mad at her. She also said that finally confessing to me how she had felt for a week or two, made her feel so much better. I suggested to her that she might have a case of "the jitters" cos i am her first b/f from UK and this is a big thing for her. I told her to take all the time she needed and that I'd always be here for her. and now I just have to wait... Should I be worried ? Is this "normal" ? How should I handle things to decrease my chances of loosing her ? Should I still visit her in February ? is the "can i have some time please" a bad sign in every case ? Thankyou.