OldSkool76

LoL. Of course...It's a great movie! In fact, it's one of my favorites... And, thanks for the advice...I'm trying to figure out what I'm doing as of right now...

Actually, my best friend's mom has her eyebrow pierced. I'm not too worried about being mainstream. In the area of career I want, just about anything's acceptable.... As far as my boyfriend goes, I'm starting to think that it is a losing battle, and I'm probably not going to get what I want out of the relationship...So...We'll see in a couple days what happens.

I actually have one other question that deals with my boyfriend, but not our relationship. As far as piercings and tattoos go, how should we deal with it? Anyone know? He wants to get an Avenged Sevenfold tattoo, but I think it's dumb to get a tattoo of a band (well, their logo) that you've only liked a few months...And I want to get my lip pierced, but he doesn't really want me to. So...how do we deal with that?

Yeah, I might try that. Or, see if I can give it to him tomorrow or something (no football practice, so I might be able to see him.)

lol...I actually did do that. I explained that I felt like he didn't want to be with me anymore because of the lack of communication, and I outlined a plan for compromises we could make...And, would you believe it? He never even got the e-mail.

No, he wasn't ignoring me. I don't think so, anyway. He is the one that saw me and came up to me at Wal-Mart...We had a fight last week, and he's still sore about that. I've been trying to call him since he got off of work, but he was always on the phone... He also invited me to his cousin's party for New Year's, but I can't go because I had already made plans with my best friend, seeing as how my boyfriend and I were fighting.

Oh. Right. But, that's the thing...He's not communicating with me. The only reason I even have talked to him in the last week is because I ran into him at Wal-Mart.

Despite our ages, it's not usually he that is more mature than I, and we are basically at the same stage, believe it or not. He's just now getting a job, buying a car, getting out of his grandmother's house, etc., and I'm in the same position with my work status, car, and parents. I am the more mature when it comes to the relationship. That's why I broke off the engagement a few weeks ago, right before our mini-split. I have no real trust issue with him; the communication is what's going to get us.

It's actually 5 years and a couple months--he turned 23 in November, and I turn 18 in March. Second, he has never cheated on me thus far, and, if he were to, his cousin would be the first to know and the first to tell me.

Yes, I actually told him that I would try to go to his games (his home field is actually only a short distance from my house), since he's gone to most of the activities my school has held this year (I'm a part of drama club), and that I'm willing, for at least awhile, to have just one day that I know we'll spend time together, and we can even take turns or compromise about what we do. Because I've said I'd try to compromise before, and didn't really make an effort to, I don't think he actually believes me...

You should try and find something you're good at. Everyone excels at something. For me, I have superfast fingers, able to type 90 wpm on a good day. For others, it's sports, or academics, acting, etc. You just have to find your forte`. You're 13? Don't worry, you have plenty of time to find something you excel at.

To be technical, we met ten years ago, just ran into each other in July.

oOo, definitely sounds like a problem I've had recently. I'm actually friends with all of my exes, except the most recent one. And that was definitely a bad relationship to be in in the first place. So, I think it all depends on the people. He and I were friends before, with a really good, close group of friends, which split up about a year ago, the last remnants broke up when my ex and I broke up. It's been nearly a year now, and I don't think he and I will EVER be friends again, not like before. So, don't risk it if you don't want the friendship to end...

I decided to join up because I've been having a lot of issues recently with my boyfriend, and, like most teenagers, I don't like the advice the adults who love and care about me are giving. So, I thought, why not seek the advice of complete strangers? I don't want to bore anyone with a particularly long post, so I'll try to make it as short as possible. I have been dating my current boyfriend since July, and several factors have made it maybe a little too serious. Anyway, the first couple of months went smoothly, up until Thanksgiving-ish. He was supposed to come over to my house, but never showed up. Instead, he had gone to a relative's house, but never called to tell me that he had changed plans. We've been fighting off and on ever since, about what I won't and will "let him do." For instance, he joined a semi-pro football team that has practice Monday-Thursday. And, once the season actually starts in February, he'll be playing games on the weekends, and sometimes has to travel. He also has a job, so we'll see each other rarely. He doesn't seem to understand that I need to see him more than once or twice a week to maintain a relationship, and he's too afraid to ask sometimes because he thinks my parents will say I can't go. (His reasoning behind this is 1. because my parents can be strict and 2. because he's 23, while I'm only 17.) My parents rarely, if ever, tell me that I can't go off with him anywhere, unless I'm grounded. He says that I "always have to get my way now, and he's tired of it." I told him that I'm willing to compromise, and he said that he doesn't think it's possible to work things out. Yet, he still says that he wants to be with me, and that he loves me. (We were also engaged at one point.) I'm confused, and I don't know what to do anymore, and my friends don't seem to be helping. So, if anyone can possibly tell me the best thing to do, it would be much appreciated. ](*,)