Thank you DannysGirl - some of what you say is very good advice.
Yes, I would love to know how the break-up has affected her - from the fact that she has 'moved on' to a new relationship I'm sure her pain is not as great as mine.
I have not contacted her at all or pestered her apart from the time above.
As I said I respect her decision. I'm sorry but not contacting me with even a Merry Xmas is really going to make me worse.
I honestly lost hope a long time ago.
I have done all the writing and hobby bit months ago and am frankly tired of it and have been dragged back down. I really, really don't want to feel like this.
It would help me to get a response not to think she 'wanted' me but to realise she still recognised me as a human being. It would just mean so much to me. I don't even want to reply to it.
All I know is that at Xmas the silence will kill me and I will start to unleash hatred on her - I should throw the mobile away , you're right.
I feel the lowest I have ever felt in my life and I am 44. I have forced myself in the last few months to 'get out there' but to no avail; and yes I know one day it will be ok.
I am just fed up of waking up (even with a sleeping tablet) every night at 130 with terrible nightmares.
Thanks again though, it's good to know some people actually CARE - and this is what it is all about to me. I don't want love or affection from my ex - just an acknowledgment of me as a human being who displayed goodness towards her. Isn't life that simple ?