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annieo, thanx for understanding and I agree with u that no good will come out of telling him baout the kiss. I got sick of people telling me to me and that he got to know. I gotta agree it'll prollie relieve my guilt for sure, but it won't help him, it'll make it worst. And yes, I have learned form my mistake.

I say the same thing, don't tell, since it was just a kiss and u were drunk, don't tell, now if there was something more to it, then tell. Or if it was somethingr ecently then tell, but 6 months ago is pretty long. I cheated on my b/f 3 yrs ago by making out with another guy and still haven't told him and ain't. He trusts me and I don't wanna lose it for some stupid meaningless kiss. And ur question wut would I do if he told me about getting drunk and kissing a random girl, I would tell him not to drink again. I might not even count it.

Im not advocating cheating and people hiding it, not if its something serious like sleeping without else and spreading STD's, now that, yesssssss, the SO needs to know about that, thats serious but if its just a stupid once or two times kiss and meaningless, come on, how can u people even compare a kiss to sex. I was immature and stupid back then, I should have talked things out, but the past is the past. The main thing is me not doing it again and I won't.

It won't do any good, it'll just hurt him more, just telling him to get rid of the quilt and feel relieve don't help anything. Ok, so let's say it does help me and I feel much better, but not him, he'll just be hurt, it won't do any good.

Oh yea, easy to say it than doing it, lets say I do, then he breaks up and doesn't wanna see me no more, wut then, wut? Or it not being the same, then I would be stuck with an insecure b/f with issues and wondering if I'll do it again, which I won't, I can imagine I would aplogizing like nuts and still not being the same and still lots of convincing, and lots of questions, no, I think it's better this way. Knowing that I won't do it again, that enough. I don't really think he's gonna be that forgiving, he'll prollie show me door, I dunno or he'll be with doubts and he won't see me as the same girl he met, so no, I think it's better this way.

Yes, LiquidCherry, it won't happen again so I'm letting it to. And yes, I am guilty, it doesn't matter if it was just a kiss, I still cheated and yes maybe I deserve to be mock by all u people and also mock for lying to him when I say "No" to that question he just asked two days ago. Yes, novaseeker he/she has the right to know, but do u really think that know after 3 years would be a good time to tell him about the time I had the make out sessions? I had a discussion with one my best friends about this, she says it's too late now, yes I agree with her, I should have told it when it happened. But like I say before, I'll never do that again, so by all means, it's better to let it go in this case.

And anyone will completely agrees with that same saying, that BS "Once a cheater, always a cheater", is completely wrong, no, and no, just cuz I had that kiss and cheated long time ago already, doesn't mean I'll always be a cheater, heck no. Not everyone repeats the same mistake, people learn form mistakes and move on.

Ok, so yes, u all r right, cheating is the lowest thing u do, but I don't agree with Cecelius, first of all I'm not a ho who goes screwing up every guy geez second, I NEVER SLEP WITH THAT GUY, GEEEEZZ, and theantibarbie, ur confusing a kiss with sex, thats different, in fact every different. And yes, I would definitely get mad if he cheated, if he kissed another girl or make out with her, yes I would be piss, and yes it'll hurt me but at least I would work that out, it's not so serious but dang if he had sex, then I dunno wut I would do, he would he out, that I could never work out. In terms of me telling, yes I can undertstand HONESTY IS IMPORTANT in a relation, but too much it will get at nothing. Lets say I'm to tell my b/f now: for ex this convo, here goes: Me: Oh i got something to tell u He: Wut have u got to tell, say it Me: That when I broke up with u 3 yrs ago was cuz I felt quilty, I did somehting stupid He: Tell me, wut did u do, did u umm cheated? Me: (Stupidly) Yes, I make out with another guy on two occasions and flet bad, that why I had to break up He: (Staring at me in disbelieve and with full of questions) Why, how could u, I trusted or another possible answer him saying its over Now, do I really want risk telling the truth about a meaning kiss for that whole drama and him distrusting me for long and not being the same, heck no, I'm happy and so is he, thereforeeee, it's better letting things the way they are. And yes I should have told it right in the beginning three years ago and now it's way to late.

Yes, justlooking, my cheating 3 yrs ago wasn't that major, and No Bethany I never slept with that guy, I dunno where u get that cuz thats not wut I say, it was two long making out sessions while on a date. But yes, I agree it was still cheating and my b/f would have thought the same. And no I wouldn't have like either if my b/f were to kiss another girl, off course I would get mad too. I don't think he knows justlooking, cuz if he did woudln't he have confronted me long ago about that and the break up, it doesn't make sense he knowing that already and staying silent. But weird thing today, I was at his house and we were watching a talk show and boom guess wut it was about, it was about on couples who were caught cheating, so me and my b/f talk about cheating, well he's the one that started. Then after a while he asked the question, guess u all can guess wut that was, "Have you ever thought or cheated on me", so I was like "Off course, have you? He say "Me neither, and never will, thats for people with no values nor morals, they jsut act and can't talk". So, no, I don't think he knows, but that sure was a weird question.

Thanx for the posts people. Darkblue in no way I'm trying to justify cheating, I know wut I did it was wrong but that was 3 YEARS AGO. Now that it's been a year since we have gotten bcak together, u really wnat me to tell him after thopse years wut I did, so I can possible have another break up, which can be a bye bye for sure or have an insecurity b/f wondering where im I or who I'm a with. Darkblue so u really wnat to tell him and actually lose all that trust I earned all the way, and trust is hard to earn. By telling him wut I did, I owuld lose it all and u know how hard it would be convincing him that "Oh it won't happened again while I would imagine he syaing "Why and asking more questions, so no Darkblue I'm not going to risk all that by telling. I agree with the 1st post, I'm dealing with the guilt on my own.

Well hi people, I decides to post my thread on this topic, cheating cuz I was the one who did it. It doens't matter if it was the two make out sessions, I still did it, and no I don't justify it, it still was cheating. But see the issue is that is was around 3 years ago and it's been 5 years since I met my b/f. Off course he never found out, thing is that well lets say there was a rocky relationship in the meantime, mom driving me crazy, exams, and on top of that I had issues of my own and my b/f would like kinda ignore me. Well yes I know, I should have communicated instead of dating and making out with someone else on two occasions. But see, when I dated him the secodn time, yes I'll have to admit that really wans't like me at all, I couldn't believe I have done it. So anyways after 2 weeks I broke up with him, I din't feel good about wut I did and didn't see that guy again (the one I dated I mean). Well no, my b/f didn't took the breka up good, he had kinda like a suspicion, but I'm to smasrt to get cuaght. Well to make the story short it's been now a year since we have gotten back together, like I say before, till this day he never found out I cheated and hopefully never will. Then I can't imagine all that trust I'm to lose if he were to know or break up, yet again, which he won't, I mean that was 3 years ago already. If there's one thing that got me feeling bad again was the conversation we jsut had 1 week and it had to be about cheating and wut woudl u do and stuff like that. He say "Dang if people gonna cheat on their SO then they shouldn't be in a relation so I just had to go along with it and try not to remind myself of the past. I know, it's liek living a lie, but sometimes that old saying "Wut they don't knwo can't hurt them is true". And by the way our relationship is now very good, so why ruin it by telling and face another break up, come on people, have some common sense at least. No, in no way I'm favoring cheating, it's worng and damages relation, but if u did it a long time ago, ur SO still doens't know and u know you'll not do it again and the relation is good, then why tell, it'll only cause pain. Well that's my view, wut u think people.

Yea, ur lucky she still wanted to stay with u, but yes, people do make mistakes and well, don't think it's nice being to harsh on it, now, I'll post my thread.

Yes do it now, if he was honest with u about it, then he would expect the same thing. Better late than never and by the way this a coming from one who cheated and in trouble now, getting blackmailed.

I'm gonna psot my thread a little bit later on this topic, when I'm feeling better and relax.

Wow Babychrist glad u learned from it, u were just 15. Yes cheating does affect both u and the person. And I can't believe it happened, it wans't sex but yes it was kissing with the partner's best friend. Now thats worst, happened like 5 months ago. Oh well thats all, Im writing, not feeling good.