Hello. First post.
First of all, forgive me for my English.
I am 27, never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl. I am fat and maybe this is the reason. I cannot loose weight, I tried it several times with no result.
All these years I am not happy and I want to take this thing of my mind, I wish I could say that I don't need a girl but that is not true.
All of my friends ware at least once involved in a relationship.
The problem with me is this : when I don't have hope, I am OK. I don't really mind not having a girl, but if I see a girl that I think she shows interest in me, then I kind of fall in love (it is really easy for people like me to fall in love, if you need it, it is the easiest thing).
But of course, these girls are simply nice, they are not interested in me, they are just nice with me, and this is the problem...
Hope, you see, is a very bad thing, it can make you feel good, have nice thoughs about you and, why not, starting to fantasize that you just might get in a relationship with a girl (!!!)...
If my level of happiness is in A all the time, then, by getting hope, it goes from A to B ( B > A ). This transition is fine, it is more than fine, it is GOOD, but when I realize that the girl does not like me, then I go back, from B to A, and this hurts... A LOT.
You see, it is not the level that you are that counts, it is the fall... The falling edge ( from B to A ).
There is this girl in my previous job, she is 23 and she is a super nice person, she was teasing me, squeezing my (big) belly and doing stuff like that. Once she said : "look at this face, look how cute he is" ( to another person ) and on my last day on my previous job she pinched my cheek and said : "oooohhh.. look at this faceeee... he is so sweet, like a pouf" (This big round pillow, again to another person).
I TOTALLY LOST MY MIND... That day I didn't manage to write one simple line of code ( I am a programmer ). I was fantasizing that maybe I will see how good it will be to kiss a girl, hung out with one, see this smile on her face when she has a date with you, play with her hair and things like that.
And then came the fall. She is doing these kind of stuff in all of my co-workers, I just didn't notice that before. And when I noticed, I experienced the fall... once again.
Problem: I am in LOOOVEEE... I must get over it.
Thanks and sorry if I made myself mortal.