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...and I thought the interview was hard! I just didn't realise I would be so affected, I was so blaze about the whole process and now I am so nervous! Thank you, I will watch out for anything top shelf includung the babes! Again, thank you.

I have been at my present job for 5 years and it is my last day today. I start at my new company on monday and I am very nervous, the role is the same but the company is much larger about 3 time larger. The role is office manager and I just hope I handle the size switch. I am also worried about getting used to all the equipment.... I guess I am just stressing about it all! I will be working with al lot of women in an open plan floor, where as before I was in the studio with mostly men and I hope there won't a problem. I think it is more the change as I was with my present company for so long and I had fallen into the comfort zone. I am looking forward to more respoonsibility and I hope I can handle it and improve. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, Fingers crossed!

Oh my, I just saw his brother at lunchtime in soho, he works near by. He was really vague and couldn't wait to get away, we get on really well and always have great chats. (we all went away two weeks ago and had a wonderful time). He was so uncomfortable, I know he knows and just wanted to get out of there. I was really hoping that he hadn't said anything to him but it's obvious, which freaks me even more (he wouldn't say anything to his bro about us so it's a bad sigh....oh hell!) I know i'm sounding crazy but I love this man and I feel ripped apart and scared. I wasn't prepared for this at all, I don't think I can do this, I must try to keep on top of it. I havn't heard from him today about when we are going to talk. Oh god I wish I was stronger. It's so crazy...I can't believe Im feeling so stressed, But there is alot of good advice in this forum, some of you guys much be therapists or definitely should be. I want to contact him, should I.......I just don't know?

thank you, it really helps to get feedback, you know when you're feeling at your lowest. Deep breaths I suppose.

I have been posting through this week after an argument with my boyfriend of nearly 3 years. The argument was petty but he was so mad and froze me out. I now know that he is really stressed at work and that he can't handle any relationship problems and can't go on. He said we'll talk properly at the weekend, I suppose to finalise the relationship. He is going away for a month on the 15th to Panama so I guess he thinks he might as well do it now rather than having it hanging over his head. Of course he is sorry and said the usual, it's just a bad time in my life, too much going on. I have always been there for him but he never made it obvious he was under so much pressure, if he'd just said. I am also thinking that he has been feeling like this for a while and I am know its not just the pressure of work and obviously the relationship is troubling him. I just can't understand as we have been really happy and planning our trip to Bali in October. He is quite moody after a row but he never leaves it this long and we do call each other, this is how I knew it was something more serious. I am dreading the break up chat and I almost want to text him and say don't bother I know what is coming but deep down I need to hear the truth no matter how much it hurts. I so desparately want to tell him I love and care for him but he's asked for space so I am respecting that. I am a bit of a mess, all sorts going through my head trying to stay calm and deal with the extremeness of this situation. I can't concentrate on anything else and keep thinking about him, I miss him. I know no one has the answer I just need to tell someone with out feeling like I am going mental or sounding paranoid and nurotic. Thanks for reading, all of you x

I am cra* at waiting but he is obviously stressed out. He did reply an hour ago saying he had so much stress at work and he has to prepare for his trip to Panama, he is studying frogs and snakes. I didn't realise he was that stressed, he never mentioned it to me, actually I assumed he was looking forward to it. I think he's nervous but he'd never admit that. he claims that 'people' are being unhelpful, I am assume that includes me. The bottom line is he doesn't want to speak to me now he said we'd speak at the weekend if he gets everything done. It seems to from his text that I am adding to the stress. Any way it doesn't look good, I am upset that he is leaving it to the weekend. I replied ok and that I would back off, I said I regretted the stupid row and that I didn't realise he was under stress. He knows Im worried about us and chooses to leave me in limbo, this upsets me, I don't know how he can be so black and white. This all seems so pointless but he feels i am unsympathetic, I worry he'll come to the conclusion that he can't deal with a relationship a the moment and just end it then go accross the world!

Ok I'll try I think he would say that I am not being helpful towards him and that me doing things like slamming down the phone infuriates him. I am sure he will say that he is stressed out because of work its very busy and he has to go away in two weeks. That everything is up in the air and he doesn't need me to throw a strop. He won't think that he deserved the phone slammed on him and that he didn't want an argument as its a stressful time. I think he thinks that I will add to the stress. I am aware of his stresses but sometimes in the heat of the moment this happens but he is just so black and white! I hoped he would share the stress with me but he doesn't seem to want to. There is no give, he is like thats it, cut off! I just want to clear a bad situation, say it was silly and I'm there for you.

I had a stupid argument with my boyfriend on tuesday about booking a dinner reservation, . I put the phone down on him because he was shouting at me and I was at work. Yes I know it was immature but he was so mad at me and has ignored me since. I tried to call later to resolve the bad vibes but he would not pick up the phone and there is only so much you can text! I can't believe he still hasn't called, I decided to play him at his own game as I always contact him but I have a really bad feeling that this is so much more to this and I am going crazy (probably his plan). I thought we were happy, however he always gets in moods and is diffilcult after and he knows it bothers me and I have aked him not to do it. The thing is we never fight over anything big. I do worry as he does keep it all inside. After people telling me to leave it for a while, let him cool. So I did, but after 2 days I have texted him to say that we should talk. He has not replied, I feel really horrible and have that just been dumped, sick feeling. It just seems so unfair as Its obviously not just because I slammed the phone down yet he won't allow me an explaination. How can someone who tells me he loves me on monday just totally ignore me. I feel stupid for texting but I wanted to stop the games and just know where I stand. Any advice on moody men would be greatly appreciated! I hate the ignoring game, who's gonna crack first, jeeze we can be so cruel to each other! Thanks X

Just spoke to him at his work. I had to call him to confirm the booking, my sister had made it but she couldn't get through to him (she worked till 2am this morning and has other things to do), she was shocked at the situation and couldn't believe he is being so pathetic. I felt ashamed of him and apologised for his behaviour. I was very matter of fact to him on the phone but polite, I didn't want to speak to him, I think he would have talked but I did not want to. I am seriously considering our relationship now, I have never broken down a relationship before but the rudeness towards myself and my sister just can't be tolerated. Also now my sister will have a changed opinion of him, unless he apologises to her. I seriously doubt that will ever happen, seeing as he can't even apologise to me. I didn't want to call him but I didn't want to have to involve my sister anymore in this embarrassing charade. I think I allowed his moodiness in the past as it just involved us but this is not about us and thats what makes it so rediculous but I can't let it go. I would be lying to myself. Arrrgh, am I just weak!

thank you, and i will keep posting, it keeps me from stressing too much.

just to add we don't often have petty fights, its usually him getting into a mood and becoming quiet and with drawn. He's not very good at showing his feelings, very proud. He'd rather hole up, but that's the opposite to me.

I just can't believe how childish this is and I know he will cool down and think I am over reacting to this. Make himself look better by shrugging it off, I need to make him see that I won't tolerate this. How do I make him listen, do men really listen to women after a fight? We have been together 2 and a half years, but he gets stroppy when I defy him or act more independently, like go out with the girls. I suppose its jealousy?! You're right I worry that its more than this, who would react so on such a tiff? He oftens uses the excuse that he's frustrated if he hasn't had sex for over 3 days. Reading this I know I have to re-asses this relationship, I need the days apart to think. I can't reply to that text, I'm disgusted by it, really upset. My sister works so hard and he's acting like she gone out to make a fool of him. She will call him today and confirm the reservation and he will feel some guilt I am sure. I can't tell my sister as I am too embarrassed of his behaviour. Shocking! thank ilse, i really appreciate your reply

I can't believe this he just texted to me ....."Thanks alot you and your sister made me look like a right C**T in front of my flatmate/colleague, brilliant. can't wait to return the favour." I am stunned and this is my boyfriend!

no that is all wrong. Men I know don't feel that way at all about their sisters and would freak if they saw their breasts. curiosity at 13 is fine but jerking off, mme not sure. But to talk about it openly in his 40's, i feel that is not right.

thanks dragon, Yes he does, he is very stubborn and doesn't like to be told or cut short. I am not going to call him, I just can't believe this is my botfriend and I am going out with someone who behaves like this! I am scared that if this continues it will be our downfall. To Momene, I did apologise, I said it was in the heat of the moment but he wouldn't take my call so I had to do it via text. I believe we are entitled to make mistakes but you show some give specially if someone is attempting to better a bad situation . Maybe its because I apologise, he knows he can get away with it!