london_lad21

Okay, so my g/f and I decided to meet. She decided she wanted to come down and see me. So I thought thats fair enough if she wanted to do that. She discussed it with her mother who said it was fine. Yesterday she discussed transport with her mother whilst I cleared it would my parents that it was okay. My parents were fine about it.. however her mum wanted her to go by train and I said coach would be best as its no changes but is about 9hrs journey where as the train is 4 changes. Her mum didnt want her to go by coach as she said it wasnt feasable, despite being the cheapest option. So she discussed with her mum about going by train and her mum suggested to wait until I move closer to them (which wont be until march at the earliest) so she said she'll respect her mums wishes but asked me if I would go there instead. I'm training for a costly occupation and all my money must go on the training. However i'm seriously considering going to see her. However shes talking about coming down to visit me in her next half term from college (February) So i'm just abit annoyed really.. she said she would come, but then she wont use the coach because her mum says its not feasable and my gf doesnt want to be on a coach for 9hrs, however its okay for me to be on a coach for that time to go there.. I just dont like hanging in the balance, one min shes coming, then she isnt and we're going to wait until I move.. I know we'll meet, but I have had such a hard 2 days with this as one min things sound great, then they dont.. So now I have to tell my parents that she isnt coming for new year and that I might be there instead. I know I sound harsh in this, but I have been really patient with all this, especially waiting for her to discuss it with her mum and now I feel really disappointed that it isnt going to happen, unless I can use my training money and go to visit her.

Hey, Yesterday she was alot more talkative and seemed normal. It was like a complete turn around from the weekend. I don't know how it happened. What do you think? I know she was going shopping today and she hasnt been for so so long. Maybe thats why? I don't really know! I text her earlier but got no reply. This has been a recuring thing recently, over the past week or two. I would text her during the day and not hear from her until she got online in the evening. I was thinking maybe its because she was busy with college, but I know she was shopping on her own today and I still got no reply. I maybe i'm just being insecure, but I don't see the rocket science involved in replying to a text, but maybe im just good at multi tasking because I fly planes? I don't know, it just concerns me that she only texts me when shes going to bed, its like she can't be bothered during the day. When I ask her if she got my text she usually says 'I got it late' to which I usually say 'well, even if you got it 2 or 3hrs after I sent it, it would be nice to hear from you' but I never do.

Hey, Yesterday she was alot more talkative and seemed normal. It was like a complete turn around from the weekend. I don't know how it happened. What do you think? I know she was going shopping today and she hasnt been for so so long. Maybe thats why? I don't really know! I text her earlier but got no reply. This has been a recuring thing recently, over the past week or two. I would text her during the day and not hear from her until she got online in the evening. I was thinking maybe its because she was busy with college, but I know she was shopping on her own today and I still got no reply. I maybe i'm just being insecure, but I don't see the rocket science involved in replying to a text, but maybe im just good at multi tasking because I fly planes? I don't know, it just concerns me that she only texts me when shes going to bed, its like she can't be bothered during the day. When I ask her if she got my text she usually says 'I got it late' to which I usually say 'well, even if you got it 2 or 3hrs after I sent it, it would be nice to hear from you' but I never do.

Hey, Yesterday she was alot more talkative and seemed normal. It was like a complete turn around from the weekend. I don't know how it happened. What do you think? I know she was going shopping today and she hasnt been for so so long. Maybe thats why? I don't really know! I text her earlier but got no reply. This has been a recuring thing recently, over the past week or two. I would text her during the day and not hear from her until she got online in the evening. I was thinking maybe its because she was busy with college, but I know she was shopping on her own today and I still got no reply. I maybe i'm just being insecure, but I don't see the rocket science involved in replying to a text, but maybe im just good at multi tasking because I fly planes? I don't know, it just concerns me that she only texts me when shes going to bed, its like she can't be bothered during the day. When I ask her if she got my text she usually says 'I got it late' to which I usually say 'well, even if you got it 2 or 3hrs after I sent it, it would be nice to hear from you' but I never do.

Hey, Yesterday she was alot more talkative and seemed normal. It was like a complete turn around from the weekend. I don't know how it happened. What do you think? I know she was going shopping today and she hasnt been for so so long. Maybe thats why? I don't really know! I text her earlier but got no reply. This has been a recuring thing recently, over the past week or two. I would text her during the day and not hear from her until she got online in the evening. I was thinking maybe its because she was busy with college, but I know she was shopping on her own today and I still got no reply. I maybe i'm just being insecure, but I don't see the rocket science involved in replying to a text, but maybe im just good at multi tasking because I fly planes? I don't know, it just concerns me that she only texts me when shes going to bed, its like she can't be bothered during the day. When I ask her if she got my text she usually says 'I got it late' to which I usually say 'well, even if you got it 2 or 3hrs after I sent it, it would be nice to hear from you' but I never do.

Hey, Yesterday she was alot more talkative and seemed normal. It was like a complete turn around from the weekend. I don't know how it happened. What do you think? I know she was going shopping today and she hasnt been for so so long. Maybe thats why? I don't really know! I text her earlier but got no reply. This has been a recuring thing recently, over the past week or two. I would text her during the day and not hear from her until she got online in the evening. I was thinking maybe its because she was busy with college, but I know she was shopping on her own today and I still got no reply. I maybe i'm just being insecure, but I don't see the rocket science involved in replying to a text, but maybe im just good at multi tasking because I fly planes? I don't know, it just concerns me that she only texts me when shes going to bed, its like she can't be bothered during the day. When I ask her if she got my text she usually says 'I got it late' to which I usually say 'well, even if you got it 2 or 3hrs after I sent it, it would be nice to hear from you' but I never do.

Yeah I guess you're right. I thought about backing down over it too. Its just earlier she was saying 'I sometimes get like this, I get really low' So I just said to her that its because she has problems that she isnt really dealing with properly, she just puts them to the back of her mind and they eat at her slowly. She just said 'mmm' All I want to do is make it right, but i'm almost certain if she just talked, not just outline the problems (which she did do last night) but also talk about how it makes her feel, why it has upset her and why it gets to her...etc I just think it will be a huge weight off of shoulders through talking about it alone and i've been trying to get her to see that. I guess i'll just back off abit, but what do I do? What do I talk about with her as most of the time she answers with 'mmm' and 'okay'?

Oh no, I am on her other list but I knew other people like her ex was on her other list so it put me off. I did apologise because I knew how silly I was being. Before we got together we talked regularly. Built up a real nice understanding of eachother. I know her dad moving away is bothering her, and she gets frustrated with herself for not being able to open up, especially with me. Shes swamped with assignment work. I just want to be able to support her, even when she isnt able to open up. How do I let her know im here for her when she needs me?

Hey We have been together 4 months but known eachother 2yrs. I spoke to her last night and she eventually opened up and told me all the things that were bothering her lately. I thought that after that she might be abit better today but seems abit reserved again. We have 'other' msn accounts to which we only have eachother on our buddy list and we were talking but she all of a sudden decided to change account. I'm not sure why. I suppose i'm reading too much into it but I gave her so much advice last night, even e-mailed her to tell her how much she means to me, and then today she just decides she'd prefer to chat with her friends. I suppose im just being insecure but I have really been caring lately and can't help but feel abit rejected.

Hey, Thanks for your time replying. I am sorry I didnt reply sooner, i've been busy. I told my g/f how I feel and she opened up abit more and said a few nice things to me which she hasnt done for a while. I'm guessing that she was so stressed out and snowed under with work that she just didn't realise what was happening? Anyway, she still only occasionally answers my texts but I guess this is something to do with the fact that I reply to every text as I feel its rude not to and she maybe has a different outlook on that. I guess now i'm still in abit of caution. I have had g/f's hurt me alot in the past and being close means everything to me as thats just who I am. I guess I am going to feel quite cautious for a while? I must addmit, i'm still feeling abit insecure about this but we'll just have to see how it all goes. I'm not feeling unhappy with the relationship overall, am I?

Hey I appreciate your reply! The thing is as she lives over 300 miles away from me I can't exactly bring her breakfast in bed. She maybe coming down just after xmas however that isnt confirmed yet. I am just finding this quite hard to deal with. The distance isnt a problem but when we talk on msn (go on webcam and voice too) she doesn't seem very interested. I think shes just occupied doing her college work which is understandable, but all she ever answers with is 'yeah' and 'mmm' and 'no' It's getting to the point where its making me feel angry and I usually just tell her I have to go as I don't want to end up saying something i'll just regret. I keep asking her if theres anything wrong and she says there isnt. I'm afraid that me saying this is going to make her think I am not happy with our relationship. She tends not to open up very much and always wants to face problems on her own too, but I really like it when she opens up to me. How do I get her to understand this? Does anyone have some tips for good conversation? I just don't know what to do really.

Hey everyone, Although things with my g/f are going okay, there are a few glitches that I wouldn't mind some advice on really. My g/f is at college at the moment and seems really run down! For example yesterday she didnt even have a lunch break! In the evenings when we talk we both go on webcam and she is usually doing homework throughout the whole evening until she goes to bed. Lately she has been quiet and very reserved and it had me thinking there was problems with our relationship but whenever I asked her she said we were fine. I keep worrying that something is wrong, and she did mentioned a few days ago that she is exhausted. I am hoping that this is what the problem is and that she isnt hiding something from me about problems within the relationship. Anyway, I am just asking for advice as to what to do? She seems very run down and I want to try and cheer her up but how can I? Also, with this problem comes another thing. When we talk she often answers with 'yes' or 'no' to alot of questions, this makes creating a conversation very difficult if not impossible. What sorts of things can we talk about that may interest her and get her to open up abit more? I hope someone can help me.

Hey! Sorry for my delay in replying I have been having computer problems. I have finally worked through things with her and we have decided to pursue a relationship together. We talk everyday and we are very happy. She has been trying to be more open recently (about how she feels and stuff) and things are developing nicely. I guess it was worth the persistance afterall. Thank you for the advice that you have given me recently. It has helped alot.

What do you mean by that? Nothings really changed in the respect that shes always online from the moment she gets in from college, like normal, and even when she went offline this evening she said we can text. I just don't understand. Do you think I should give up or what?

Hey Thanks for the reply. We spoke this evening and she said that she didn't see how it would work. So thats it, we're just friends. Although I am grateful to be friends with her I am quite heart broken at the moment. I think the most painful thing is to reflect back to a week ago, she was sending me texts saying 'I won't hurt you, I promise *cuddles* x x x' and now shes saying that she would like to be with me but don't see how it would work. I'm sure her intentions were good, but I just feel so used now